That’s what Abigail, my right-hand woman, said about me the other day. Just those two words:

“Laser energy.”

I told her that I’ve started getting up at 3 am again, when it feels like the atmosphere — the literal, physical air around me  —  turns to this sort of creative ambrosia and the relative stillness of my mind puts me in maximum receptive mode. This is what the yoga scriptures called Brahmamuhurta, or Creator’s Hour: a time of day when the Creator showers those who want them with Divine Downloads of inspired ideas, hunches and golden threads of inspiration, small and large. 

During Creator’s Hour, you can sit still and see your natural next steps toward whatever you deem important just light up before you. And you can receive the energy to take those next steps. 

But almost no one is up at that time. 

(If you have a harsh Inner Critic, she might be telling you right now something like SEE, I TOLD YOU TO STOP DRINKING WINE AT NIGHT AND GET TO BED EARLIER UGH YOU’RE DOING IT WRONG AGAIN. Tell your Inner Critic thanks for that input, duly noted, you appreciate it, and you’re going to continue reading your favorite newsletter now without the need to compare or judge yourself, because Tara says harsh self-criticism always backfires and Tara also says that you can trust your Inner Intelligence to help you get exactly what you need out of this message, exactly when you need it. Eat the meat and leave the bones. Carry on.)

See, as quiet as it’s kept, your brain and body take much longer to wake all the way up than almost anyone gives them time to. 

After twenty years in the transformation business, I’ve learned a lot about the normal wake up experience. 

Most people wake up with a scarcity story on their mind that goes like this: “I didn’t get enough sleep.” And many wake up with a dread story, too: “I don’t want to do whatever it is I’ve got slated to do today.” 

And many, many people wake up and resume the same energy they had when they went to sleep the prior night. That feeling of Zerissenheit, the German word for feeling torn to pieces by all the demands, projects and tasks of the day, feeling stressed about being here and now while already thinking ahead to the hundreds of other things you’ll need to do that day.

And so they linger in bed for as long as humanly possible, trying to eke out a few more moments of avoidance, then sort of jolt themselves up, hurl their bodies out of bed and start caffeinating in an effort to shake off the fog and brace themselves for the coming day and its coming onslaughts. 

Neurobiologists call this mentally foggy segment of time after you wake up sleep inertia. And it’s not a couple of minutes, it’s more like 30 minutes, neurobiologically speaking.

And the “fix” for it is not caffeine… it’s time. 

The fix is time. 30 minutes your brain wakes up, you just need time. 

And the fix for that dread story of “I don’t want to do this day” is sovereignty. The fix for that is pruning your calendar ruthlessly. Getting better and better every day at removing the things you dread and also giving yourself more, longer, uninterrupted stretches of time to do the things that bring you delight or put you in the flow. 

The fix is time. To give yourself time.

And the fix for that scarcity story of “I didn’t get enough sleep” is getting to bed earlier, investing in a bedtime wind-down routine that feels like a gift you give yourself every night, setting some boundaries with yourself. Limiting the empty calorie screen time in which you indulge at night not from a place of harsh self discipline, but from a place of lavishing yourself with sleep and with… time. 

The fix is time. 

And the fix for Zerissenheit is to take a sacred pause, to reclaim your energy and attention from the hundreds of demands that will come later on, to stop reacting and to replenish yourself, tapping into that natural well of energy you have within (whether you know it or not).

The fix is time. 

I’m not saying you have to get up at 3 am. But I do. And when I do, I don’t hurl myself straightaway into the day. I don’t start making myself available to other people and their emotions first thing. 

I make myself a huge cup of green tea. I light candles all around. I sit. I just sit still for a while, often with the sound of the rain playing on my white noise app, and I just be. 

Then I freely write, getting all the thoughts and ideas and grievances of yesterday and concerns of today on the page. Sometimes that brain dump just snowballs into notes for my team, for the book, or even just answers to a question I’d been pondering.

Then I pray and do some declarations. And then I turn on my chakras with a little micro-yoga practice, The Five Tibetans, or some agility and mobility work. (If that got too woo for you, just think: new age calisthenics.)

By then my brain is ON. I write for a while, the book or the curriculum for my new program, or I work on a Transformation Tuesday. 

And then I work out.

And then my day in the external world begins, usually with Londyn springing out of her room and yelling, “TA-DAAAAAAAAAAAAA! I’M AWAKE!! IS IT WAKE UP TIME???” 

And fast forward… then my day ends around 8 or 8:30, with a bath and bedtime. Because: 3 am. wake time requires an early bedtime too.

But before I do all of that, I just sit and I just be in that brain fog state for a while, knowing that because I have this luxurious stretch of time to myself before I start writing, and because I have that luxurious stretch of writing time to myself before I start working… my sleep inertia transforms into a gift, not a problem to be fixed. 

With time, your so-called sleep inertia transforms into the gift of a quieter mind, so you can feel your natural next steps light up. 

It’s the gift of being in receptive mode, which reminds you that there’s magic and assistance available to you. 

It’s the gift of being fully alert for a good long stretch and getting to put that energy into what I care about before you open yourself to other people’s priorities.

It’s the gift of being able to hear my Divine Downloads in high clarity.

It’s the gift of being able to spend some time adjusting my frequency, getting in alignment with whatever I’ve chosen to focus on that day. Removing the energy of “I have to” and remembering why “I chose to”. Resetting and realigning those choices, if I need to because something feels “shackles on” or my callings are calling me to a different allocation of time and energy today.

It’s the gift of hearing and seeing what needs hearing and seeing. Of seeing dots connect that you can’t see while you’re in hustle and bustle mode. Some days, I have an epiphany or download about what I want to create next or what’s not in alignment, and it comes so fast and complete during my sitting or free-writing that it’s in my team’s inbox before I even get on the bike at 5 am. 

It’s the gift of some time in flow mode every single day, without being interrupted. 

It’s the gift of waking up eager to start the day, even on those days when I have to do things I would rather not. It’s the gift of being able to feel when that’s happening a little too often for my liking. It’s the gift of feeling the “shackles on” and being able to explore that, having the time to pour yourself and your thoughts onto the page, so you can see what feels constricting. Where you can explore your patterns. Where you can slow down your feeling > reaction loops and insert a pause of mindful, intentional decision making.

It’s the gift of the space and self-compassion to have made a detailed action plan and then feel how it’s not in alignment with what you really, truly care about the very most, so you replace it with 3 simple, important priorities for your entire year. 

It’s the gift of letting yourself feel the unwanted emotions, letting yourself distill what they want to communicate with you, and resetting in a natural, resting place of trust and knowing that everything is always working out for you, before you start doing and acting and performing and producing and perfecting for the day. 

It’s the gift of grounding. Getting to center. It’s the gift of breath. Quiet.

I think of it as countering all the scarcity messages I’ve ever received by lavishing myself with the gift of time. 

For me, the quality of life boost I get out of my early AM wake-time and practice is extreme.  It’s the most restful thing I do, even more restful than sleep itself. The flow it allows me to live in, regularly creating my ideas without blocks or stuckness… it’s joyful and intrinsically motivating, psychologically.

But it’s also deeply spiritual: It’s when I reset and stop reacting. It’s when I reconnect with my own natural strength and power, and with All That Is. With God. It’s when I explore my own shadows and open my soul and replenish it and integrate what I’ve learned more deeply, into who I’m becoming. 

It’s when I see the hidden hijinks of my own Inner Critic, and get intentional about breaking the pull of my patterns. 

It’s my inner retreat, and I get to take it every day of my life, anywhere I am in the world. 

And it’s how I get to this place of laser energy that I’m in right now, over and over again: Focused on what matters the most. Focused on aligning to that and resourcing that. Focused on putting things in their rightful place on the priorities list, because there’s always that creep of urgent things trying to knock the important stuff off the top of the list. Focused on delegating more effectively or taking less important things off the list altogether and letting that be okay, too.

I’m challenging you this week to get curious about this: Do you give yourself and your soul-deep priorities (not just your work priorities or household duties) the gift of time? 

What is your Inner Critic saying about why this delectable, lavish gift of time isn’t really available to you, personally? 

What does your Inner Naysayer think when you think about going to bed earlier or, if you’re a night owl, turning off the devices so you can just be? 

What might be possible for you, if you did? And I don’t just mean what stuff could you get done. 

I mean how would you feel? Self-respect? Self-compassion? Awake? More alive?

Yeah, probably all of those.

Head up + heart out,

The Inner Critic Coach™

Tara-Nicholle Nelson, MA, Esq.
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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Here’s what I learned this year:

We’re all dying anyway. 

Despite all the self-protection we think we’re doing when we hide our light and hold ourselves back. 

Perfectionism will not save you. 

Waiting until you’re ready won’t, either.

We’re all dying. 

It’s the only thing guaranteed about living.

And if the death of this beautiful, meat-covered skeleton made of stardust that is your body, if that death is a given then that death on its own, cannot be the tragic part. 

The tragedy is the unlived life. The tragedy is that you survive the pandemic and hide from your own genius out of fear. The tragedy is if you spend the next years or decades living some societally-approved shadow of the life you really want.

Self-consciousness and self-sabotage. Hesitation and procrastination. Wondering what they’ll think. Marrying our struggle portfolios. Fondling the faux-catastrophe of “well, if I speak up in the meeting I could look super dumb,” so you say nothing at all. Continuing to over-give and let resentment and exhaustion take up all the energy you could otherwise pour into the callings of your soul.

That’s tragic. 

Because all that self-limiting usually comes from a storyline that says: “If I go all in, or if I dare to get after whatever my heart really desires, Something Very Bad could happen.”

Almost all of our Inner Critic talk and self-limiting comes from a protective place. 

The occasional terror and prevailing beauty of 2020 was in remembering that this world and these bodies are not our permanent homes. 

Don’t get me wrong. I have not become one of those “life is short” people.

Because you are eternal. Your soul is eternal. And so are all the elements of your body: the carbon, the nitrogen. They’re not making any more of that stuff. Matter just shifts form.

Your soul never dies and your matter never dies…so you can never really die.

But in case you were in danger of getting it twisted, 2020 was here to remind you: The current form of YOU is only here for a season.

And we came here to play the creation game, because the singular advantage we have while we’re here in these human bodies for this season is to think thoughts and have ideas about how we want the world to be or our lives to be… to think thoughts about things that don’t currently exist, and then to cause those things to exist.

That’s the power of playing the creation game.

The tragedy is not playing the creation game because we think our perfectionism, procrastination, self-criticism and self-limiting is protecting us from dying, when (not to beat a dead horse) dying isn’t even the tragedy.

The tragedy is hiding our light, holding ourselves back or telling ourselves the story that we’re not doing it right, whatever it is. 

The tragedy is to continue telling ourselves self-critical stories that feel shitty and fables of limitations that do not exist.

You may think that these stories of your Inner Critic are keeping you responsible, keeping you safe or keeping you alive, but nope! YOU ARE DYING ANYWAY. 

Maybe not for another 100 years, but the day will come. 

I invite you to opt-out of the tragedy of hiding your light.

You get to outgrow the need to participate in that. 

2021 seems like as good a year as any to let the old ways you held yourself back dissolve and dissipate. 

I know that’s what I’m doing. 

In fact, here are some of my intentions for the segment of time we’ve deemed 2021. 

I invite you to borrow any of them that feel resonant for you. 

Click here for Tara’s 2021 Intentions.

Head up + heart out,

The Inner Critic Coach™

Tara-Nicholle Nelson, MA, Esq.
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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I intend for 2021 to be a year of maximum illumination. 

Maximum shining my own light. 

Maximum shining light into my shadows.

I intend to judge myself less this year.

I intend to achieve less this year through hard effort and create more through intentional alignment.

I intend to align more. 

I intend to leverage more.  

I intend to real-ize more and be less productive and more fruitful at the same time.

I intend to be the Maestra of an orchestra of beautiful ideas and brilliant beings and delectable moments and transformational creations. 

I intend to allow more creation to flow through me.

I intend for Divine Order to be established in every space that is mine, in every relationship of my life, in every cell of my body, in every corner of my homes and my heart and my mind and my soul. 

I intend to inhabit every breath and every moment and every square centimeter of my life more fully this year than I ever have before.

In 2021, I intend to let the flow and my work and my relationships and my play be maximum easy. 

I intend to let the flow flow more than ever before, without inserting my own doubt, disbelief, discomfort or thought dis-ease into that flow. 

I intend to search out and find conversations and ideas and ways of being and people, collaborators, co-creators that feel like resonance and harmony and just so damn good. 

I intend to fulfill my desires, my dreams and my sacred potentials as I was created to do, in graceful, wonderful ways.

I intend to watch all things perfectly unfold and work out for me in Divine Timing, as they always do. 

I intend to be a radiator of love, success and abundance and a magnet for all of the above and an aligner with all of those, too, in perfect ways.

I intend to fulfill my sacred contracts this year the way I was created to do.

In the year to come, I intend to receive and allow and align like I’ve never received, allowed or aligned before and that’s saying something, because I’ve gotten really good at all of those things. 

This year I intend to receive the flow of Infinite Intelligence and to continue growing in my knowing that the One Mind — the Intelligence that programmed my organs and my cells, and the oceans and the seasons — is in me.

I now receive all wisdom and knowledge and insight… every impulse, instinct and intelligence that I need to be what I came here to be, to have what I came here to have, to learn what I came here to learn, to do what I came here to do and to create the experiences and blessings and impact and abundance I came here to create. 

This year, I intend to insert a sacred pause of breath and heart beat anytime things get a little crunchy or out of alignment, like maybe 3 times or a thousand times a day, depending on the day.

During these sacred pauses, I will turn the love I have for babies and puppies and the people I love the most inward, onto myself. 

I will take the opportunity of each and every one of these sacred pauses to recognize that every thought I think feels real, but the ones that feel the worst are almost never true. 

This year I intend to insert a sacred pause between the impulse of a desire and the knee jerk patterning I’ve learned that causes me to play the smaller game, hide my light at all or hold myself back at all.

This year I will break the pull of those patterns, starting with inserting these sacred pauses.

I intend to open my eyes wide to see those patterns this year in ways I’ve never seen them before and with absolutely zero judgment because there’s no need to judge the process or the path.

This year, I will see the delay my own self-limiting has created for what it is: beneficial. All my delays that have ever happened, ever, are right now adding to my wisdom, snowballing my clarity, benefitting me right now as we speak and creating all manner of golden chains of events through which Divine Order is working, right now, to line up a beautiful, grace-riddled journey into my highest good.

(Side note: Your delays benefit you, my friend. Not just in the end. Right now.)

This year, I will open my heart wide to receive my golden thread downloads of inspired ideas, hunches, callings and Inner Intelligence when they come, and I’ll take a sacred pause before I give into the old pattern of refusing those callings. 

This year, I will keep my heart open to receive both the downloads and the energy to act on them. 

And starting today, I open my mind, my eyes and my arms wide to receive everything Source, this Universe and this life has for me: all the success, all the joy, all the abundance, all the adoration, all the support, all the connection, all the creative power, all the ease, and all the beauty. 

This year, and starting right now, I intend to see with newfound, high-def clarity all of these components of my Divine Inheritance as they flow to me in an avalanche of abundance, over calm seas, under grace, in perfect, surprising and delight-sparking ways. 

Right now, in this moment, I set down my struggle portfolio.

I now put down those bags. 

I thank every jot and tittle of every struggle story contained therein for who they have helped me become. 

But I leave them here now.

And I go free.

All is well in my world.

Head up + heart out,

The Inner Critic Coach™

Tara-Nicholle Nelson, MA, Esq.
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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Around this time in 2017, I clicked on this headline: Guy Hides Camera in Bucket of Water To See Who Comes to Drink, and Result Doesn’t Disappoint.

And I was soon mesmerized.

I wanted to share it with you this week because it’s deeply soothing, and I think we could all use a little moment of peace right now. 

The link opened a video. This video had been filmed by a sustainable living group in Southwest Texas. And the premise was basic: they literally hid a camera in a bucket of water.

The opening shot features some bees, testing out the water. A notch-eared desert bunny peers in and takes a sip. Then some roosters come. And some lovely little birds perch on the edge then flit out of view. A rangy horse ambles up for a drink. And so does a steer: cartoonish and regal, at the same time, longhorns all out.

All of this life, all of these goings-on, all of these beings doing what they do… we see them all. We see them through the water clearly, but also with a tiny little constant, shimmery wave. 

We see how each is curious and feels worthy of indulging their curiosity, without explaining themselves to anyone. 

We see how each is thirsty and feels worthy of this water without having to proving they’re worthy. 

We see how they play… just because.  

We see how they all somehow just follow the Inner Intelligence that says “Look in the bucket. You’ll find what you need there”, without texting their friends for advice or posting on Facebook to ask what everyone else thinks about it.

Every time I watch this video, I think about the magnetic force of this bucket. Someone had the impulse to put water in a bucket and set this little gift out in the desert. Then they added a camera, trusting and knowing that something interesting—something worth watching—would find its way there.

And it did.

During this week of gift giving and receiving around the world, I want to ask you to take your mind off your to do list, your shopping list and turn your attention inward

I want you to take an inventory and make another list: a list of your own God-given, inborn gifts.

When are you water in a desert? What are your unique gifts, talents and personality traits? The ones that make you a magnet to other people, interesting events and… life itself?

Jot them down or hit reply as soon as they come to mind. Don’t give your Inner Critic a chance to chime in. Give it the week off.

Head up + heart out,

The Inner Critic Coach™

Tara-Nicholle Nelson, MA, Esq.
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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Last week I shared a few reasons you might be enthralled with the Netflix series, The Queen’s Gambit. 

Then I had one of those weeks where I received the same message over and over again, starting with another on-screen (and real life) Queen. It all began with a fascinating scene from Season 4 of The Crown. The scene depicts the 21st birthday speech that real-life, then-Princess Elizabeth delivered from the British royal family’s 1947 tour of South Africa. There’s a lot that’s historically interesting in the speech about the evolution of the monarchy and the death of an empire.

But one line stuck with me and I just had to look the real version up and watch it on YouTube. The 21-year-old woman, whose father would soon die prematurely, leaving her Queen, said: 

“I declare before you all that my whole life whether it be long or short shall be devoted to your service and the service of our great imperial family to which we all belong.” 

A few days later, something in my inbox caught my eye. “Why hasn’t the Queen retired?” Quora’s top-rated answer pointed to this exact same line of this exact same speech. 

She made a commitment seventy-three years ago. And she will keep it. Theeee end.

This concept of commitment came to me once more as I was reading our Book of the Month in my Mastery program. The book is called Conscious Luck, and it’s like a breath of fresh genius from a favorite author of mine, Gay Hendricks, and co-author Carol Kline. 

Right in the first chapter, Hendricks tells the story of a relationship in which he realized that he’d been having the same argument script with his mate for five years.

He writes: 

“I stepped back from the process and wondered: Why would I engage in a pattern like this? Why would I create the same basic argument over and over again for years? Given all the experiences I could be having as a human being, why have I kept repeating the pattern of lying and being lied to, being criticized and criticizing, blaming and being blamed, and thinking of myself as a victim?”

Then in a rush of realization, I got the answer: These things kept happening because I was committed to being criticized, committed to being betrayed, committed to arguing and lying. I was more committed to my established pattern than I was to having a great relationship. The commitments were obviously unconscious….

The moment I realized what my commitment was, I felt a huge shift inside. I wasn’t a hapless victim of my circumstances, I was the powerful creator of those circumstances!” 

He goes on: “The very act of becoming aware of our unconscious commitments is an enormous first step in taking ownership of our results in life. It loosens the negative grip of our old patterns and allows us to begin practicing new, conscious habits of behavior. It swings wide the door to claiming our power so we can create the life we truly want.”

As I read this, and connected the dots between my reading and the Queen’s words that had captivated me earlier in the week, I sat down with my journal and wrote out the question: 

What are my commitments? 

As I continued doing what I do this time of year, which is to metabolize 2020 and envision 2021, I kept coming back to that question:

What are my unconscious commitments?

As I identified areas of my life and my work where I’m not getting the results I want (yet), I asked myself again:

What have I been committed to? What commitments have I outgrown?

And as I started “writing the vision and making it plain”, as the Scripture says, so that my team, my vendors, my partners, my students, my clients and all my future collaborators may see and understand it with crystal clarity, I sat with the question still: 

What fresh commitments am I making right now? 

Your commitments — conscious and unconscious — are creating the results you’re seeing in your life, especially when it comes to the areas where you feel like you dwell daily in your zone of genius, which is the same as your zone of freedom, wholeness, meaning and self-actualized fulfillment.

Your commitments — conscious and especially the unconscious ones — are creating the results you’re seeing in your life, especially when it comes to your self-limiting beliefs and worldviews, your self-sabotage, your blocks and your inner glass ceilings, all those thoughts you think and stories you tell yourself that cause you to hold yourself back.

My life’s work — my commitment —  is to help you reverse the repression that began so long ago, all the conditioning that causes you to hide your light or hold yourself back from anything ever. 

That’s the same thing as saying my mission is for you to reclaim sovereignty over your life and your experience of it. 

Every time you break the pull of your patterns by even 1%, you get a little bit of sovereignty back.

Every time you take 1% or 5% or 10% more ownership of your results in life, you get a little closer to wholeness, joy, and liberation. 

So in the interest of shedding even a tiny, onion-skin thin layer of whatever old self-critical, scarcity-based, fearful mindset programming bugs have you in their thrall, I challenge you today to ask yourself this question and to do it without even an iota of self-judgment or self-criticism: 
 
What are your commitments?

What commitments are you ready to release? 

What is ONE unconscious commitment you can now see that has created unwanted results in your life? 

What would happen if that commitment was no longer important to you? 

How would that feel? 

What would be possible for you? 

What one commitment will you retire as 2020 comes to a close? 

What gift of a commitment will you give yourself now, as we onramp into 2021?

If this one is tough for you, here are some thought starters: 

• What fears have you been committed to? 
• What self-limiting stories have you been committed to telling? 
• What painful, self-punishing interpretations of your childhood or your past have you been committed to, maybe for years?
• Are you committed to self-soothing through consuming (wine, TV, Facebook, online shopping)?
• Are you more committed to not rocking the boat than to saying what is true?
• Did you make a commitment as a child to look for others’ approval as your green light? 
• Did you commit years ago to never outshine someone? 
• Are you committed to your few extra pounds? 
• Do you have a commitment to self-deprecation, or to bonding with others in low vibration, petty complaining? 

Remember what Carl Jung said: Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will rule your life and you will call it fate.

What unconscious commitment are you ready to make conscious, so you can get your life back?

Hit reply and let me know what comes up for you.

Head up + heart out,

The Inner Critic Coach™

P.S.: I predict that at least one of these 3 things is taking place in your mind right now:

• Your struggle switch flipped on when you read the word “commitment”, because that sounds like setting a goal where you fail if you don’t get a 100% perfect score. 
• You started telling yourself that you’ve tried and failed at dozens of commitments before.
• You started thinking “Well, Tara’s super disciplined, so she can just decide what her commitments are gonna be. But I can’t just do that! It’s not that easy.”

That’s your Inner Critic at work.

Listen: YOU are beautifully unique. But your Inner Critic is wildly unoriginal. It’s been telling the same damn stories for decades. I’ve worked with tens of thousands of people on their Inner Critic problem, and I will tell you that almost everyone you know could put their habitual self-limiting or self-critical thoughts into one of just 7 primary categories.

I’ve been keeping track. 

So here’s my advice: Don’t get ahead of yourself. For now, just identify one commitment you want to set down and another you’d like to make. Next week, I’ll tell you how I know you can do it, and we’ll talk about next steps.

Tara-Nicholle Nelson, MA, Esq.
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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The new Netflix miniseries The Queen’s Gambit is a bona fide cultural phenomenon. 

If you haven’t seen the show, chances are you will soon. To make a long story short, The Queen’s Gambit is the story of an orphaned young girl, Beth Harmon, who learns how to play chess from the orphanage’s janitor. As she comes of age, she also ascends to the very top of the world of competitive chess and becomes a self-sufficient, if troubled, woman along the way. 

It is styled and acted to perfection. I devoured it in a few hours on the treadmill. 

And apparently, I’m not the only one: 

So here’s the question: Why do we love it so damn much? 

1. We’ve had no superhero films this year (#becausecovid). If you love a good old-fashioned hero’s journey, and you feel that soul-level resonance with the call to adventure, quests and the victorious return arc of that genre, the story of Beth Harmon does it all very nicely. 

I’ve long felt that superhero films are this culture’s way of talking about God. Through them, the masses get a taste of transcendence, meaning, immortality, higher and nobler values, but also the dark shadows and forces of humanity. 

This year, we got a lot of real-world superheroes, like the front-line medical workers and the grocery cashiers and the delivery people… and John Lewis and Chadwick Boseman and New Zealand Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern and voting rights activist Stacey Abrams. 

All of these people have caused this year to be a special moment in our generation, in terms of the way hero stories influence us and influence humanity.

Because as much as I love them, mass-market superhero films turn these meaningful, eternal topics into licensed characters, cheaply commoditizing transcendence and demoting these noble concepts to a two-hour block of so-called fantasy and child’s play. 

Without the films and with all these real-life heroics, this was the year we realized that the transformational acts and arcs that move human evolution forward are lived out every day by real people in real life, mostly in ways that will never make the news. 

These people inspire us to be better humans. And these stories — fictional or not — inspire us to create better worlds. The Queen’s Gambit might have just made you want to dress better. But it might have made you want to live in a world where men support and cultivate the genius they see in women, and inspired you to give some thought as to how you might help create that world. And it might have also beckoned to the genius within you to stop hiding and come out into the world.

2. The story itself was a supernatural force that demanded to be told… and didn’t stop until it was. If you’ve ever read Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert, you’ll recall her talking about how some creative projects have an almost supernatural force of their own and will hunt down creators who are receptive, compliant and willing to serve as conduits. 

For example, Gilbert tells how she herself had an inspired idea for a novel, then put the project on hold. Years later, another author published a nearly identical storyline to the one Gilbert had been writing, with shockingly similar specifics. Given that there was no earthly way the writer who ended up publishing the book could have known about Gilbert’s incomplete draft, it was as though the story itself was a supernatural force and would not stop until it found a writer who was willing to write it.

The Queen’s Gambit — the story itself — was similarly relentless in becoming a Netflix series. The story came out in novel form almost 40 years ago. Around 2007 it was being adapted for film as the directorial debut of Heath Ledger. After his suicide, the project stalled out. But the story was relentless, and ultimately found its way to the masses via Netflix, during the pandemic, at a moment of peak hunger for a smart, stylish story about a woman unleashing her unique personality and genius.

Everyone I’ve ever coached had some kind of creation that was trying to come through them. I personally find great peace in knowing that if we stop resisting, these great things will come through us. And if we don’t, we needn’t worry: They will come to life. And another inspiration will come to us and through us, all in Divine Order and Timing.

3. You’re a Ruler. Archetypes are ancient patterns of human psyche, emotion, and behavior that you can see over and over again in myths, stories, and real life throughout human history. Carl Jung listed 12 primary Archetypes, and you’re probably familiar with many of them as literary tropes, like Ruler, Lover, Rebel and Hero.

For example, when psychologists talk about your Inner Child, we’re talking about the child archetype within you. 

We all have some of all the Archetypes within us. And we all also have dominant Archetypes, Archetypes that influence us very little, and even Archetypes we suppress and repress for various reasons. 

We find resonance with characters in sacred stories, fiction, and history who share our archetypes. And we can often download incredible insight for our own, real lives from studying fictional characters and historical figures who share our dominant Archetypes or who typify the Archetypes we need to dial up and embrace in the context of a problem or situation we’re facing at the moment.

For example, if you are a born Alchemist, you might love Harry Potter. 

If you have a dominant Inner Child, you might love Peter Pan.

And if the Ruler archetype runs strong in your Divine Inner Coding, as it does in mine, you might naturally gravitate toward programs like The Crown and The Queen’s Gambit. 

Beth is not literal royalty. But she becomes the figurative Queen of her art. And like many Queen characters, she overcomes repressive influences, she learns to harness the power of her “court” and she ultimately builds her own empire by bringing her unique spirit and gifts fully online.

And she also struggles (spoiler alert). She struggles with fear, self-doubt, addiction, the death of her birth mother and, later, her adoptive mother.

Stories are powerful tools for our personal development and spiritual journeys. Very few of us are taught, specifically, how to distill and integrate wisdom from our daily lives and longer life arcs and the collective unconscious, so that we can rediscover the power we came here with. We were never taught how to do inner work. 

One way to do it is to use stories. We can learn from the characters’ struggles and triumphs, and use that wisdom to fulfill our dreams and actualize our potentials.

Archetypes are one specific tool you can use to do your inner work with stories. You can learn about the Archetypes. You can interview them. You can dial them up or down as needed. You can even “study” your Archetypes by getting intentional about watching and reading about characters you relate to or want to be more like. 

That’s why the sacred texts of all the holy traditions are 90% story and 10% directives. Because stories activate the generations of wisdom contained in the Archetypes, and help us access it for our everyday problems and dreams and lives. 

So yeah. Those are a few reasons why you might love The Queen’s Gambit. 

(And the fashion doesn’t hurt, either.) 

Head up + heart out,

The Inner Critic Coach™

P.S.: If you want to discover your own Archetypes and learn how to work with them, take my FREE Sacred Archetypes Quiz, here. 

The Sacred Money Archetypes are framed as helping you understand why you do what you do when it comes to money, business and career.

But the way you do money is the way you do everything.

So when you take the quiz, you’ll find insight and wisdom into your own inner workings on any topic. Try it and see.

Tara-Nicholle Nelson, MA, Esq.
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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Some days, I ask Londyn the question parents love to ask toddlers: Do you know how much I love you?

And some days, she just says: YEP. And goes on about her toddler business.

But other days, she gives me the answer I taught her: YOU LOVE ME MAXIMUM.

I stole that from something my friend Artie taught me about parenting. He says parents need to sit their kids down, repeatedly throughout childhood, and tell them 3 things: 

• I love you maximum.
• There’s nothing you can do to get more love from me.
• There’s nothing you can do to lose my love, either.

These three things stop parenting from being a 20-year task with the goal of spitting out performing, conforming, productive cogs in the wheel. 

And I assure you: In the next season of humanity on Planet Earth, the last thing you’ll want the next generation of children to be is performing, conforming producers. (More on that later.)

What you will want them to be is self-sovereign. 

You’ll want them to know themselves and their unique genius.

You’ll want them to feel skillful in navigating their lives and a world that changes at warp-speed.

You will want them to possess mastery-level skills over their own minds, bodies, emotions, thoughts and actions.

You will want them to feel free. To feel whole. To feel deeply connected to All That Is. To feel deep joy, spiritual well-being and spiritual maturity.

But here’s the deal: You can’t really bring somebody an experience you’re not having. 

So before you can help the next generation experience maximum love, your first job is to reparent yourself by giving yourself maximum love. 

Love that cannot be lost.

Love that cannot be earned through performance, because… it’s already maximum.

Step one is to let your parents — however wondrous or terrible they were  — off the hook. 

Grieve what you’ve gotta grieve and mourn what you’ve gotta mourn for Little You.

Then Big You can take the wheel and become what my teacher Dave Richo calls your own “inner nurturant parent.”

Start loving yourself maximum.

Learn what unconditional love really means.

Stop forcing yourself to perform, conform or produce.

**Take a beat here. Read the last sentence again.**

Now read it one more time:

Stop forcing yourself to perform, conform or produce.

Begin the transformation of your Inner Critic via the application of radical self-cherishing.

Can you notice the times when you’re equating your work, productivity or output with your self-worth? The clue is that when you’re not able to be uber-focused because life or your kids get in the way, you start to panic, feel untethered or fear that something catastrophic will happen. Then look in the mirror, smile at that old habit you’ve outgrown and shift spiritual gears. 

Can you create a discipline that anytime things get hard, scary or grindy, the first thing you do is drink a glass of water and take a sacred pause? 

This happened to me yesterday. It was my son’s 20th day in the hospital. I’d been working on adoption paperwork and reviewing nanny profiles and handling medical stuff since 4 am, with just a little break to meditate, work out and get Londyn to daycare. I needed to be in thirteen places at once. I was bone tired… maybe the tiredest I’d ever been. And I found myself texting my bff that I was sure some really bad things would happen if I took a 30 minute nap. 

That was my signal.

I stepped away from the phone.

I closed my eyes and got a glass of water. 

I laid out a packet of bone broth, a packet of Vitamin C, an enormous glass of water and a cup of tea. 

I took a deep breath and said to myself: “Tara, my love. You are pure power. But you’re not THAT powerful.” 

The world will not crumble if you take a half hour nap and take some time for yourself.

I made one phone call to just triple-check that the world really wouldn’t crumble.

And then I set all my nourishing elixirs on the lip of my bathtub, ran a bath, put a meditation on in my headphones and took a bath as I drank first the water, then the broth, then the vitamins, then the tea.

And then I took a nap.

At 11:30 am. 

When I had thirteen places I needed to be, and a hundred things I needed to be doing. 

By 11:40, I was already feeling immense appreciation for 11:30 Tara.

A day later, I’m still feeling Maximum Love from 11:30 yesterday Tara. 

Because 11:30 Tara — who decided to get into the bath and stop playing the superhero game  —  was the new version of the (beloved) old me.  And 11:30 Tara demonstrated the progress we’ve made by recognizing the superhero myth I was telling myself.

And by opting out of that old savior/martyr/depletion story.

And by taking a bath. And getting nourished. And taking a nap. And resourcing myself to be fully present and powered ON for the rest of the day.

So, I just tell you this story as a sort of invitation to get curious about how you can contribute to human evolution by reparenting yourself on a platform of Maximum Love. 

And the next time you get scared, frustrated, overwhelmed or just tired, take a sacred pause, meet your own eyes in the mirror and say these 4 words:

I love you maximum.

Head up + heart out,

The Inner Critic Coach™

Tara-Nicholle Nelson, MA, Esq.
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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Listen, I know just about everyone is ready to put 2020 to bed. 

But there are still a few things you can do this year that are really, really worth doing. 

Here’s my hit list of things you can still do this year to feel a little bit less fearful, less repressed, more free and more whole:

1. You can thank someone in a deep, specific and heartfelt way. Specifically tell them how you felt as a result of what they did or said or how they showed up for you.
2. You can still start something. What is up to you.
3. You can stop future-tripping, even just for fifteen minutes, and tune yourself to the channel of right now.
4. You can close some open loops.
5. You can end something that you’ve outgrown.
6. You can reconnect to someone.
7. You can disconnect from someone.
8. You can disconnect from your lifelong, automatic fear and scarcity thoughts and remind yourself that they’re just thoughts. They feel real, but they’re not true.
9. You can stop telling that struggle story. Yes, that one.
10. You can still find wisdom in your right-now circumstances.
11. You can still allow yourself to want what you want.
12. You can still get in alignment with whatever it is that you want.
13. You can still ask yourself the question: What’s not in alignment?
14. You can still be honest about what’s not in alignment.
15. You can still be honest with yourself about one single thing that’s not in alignment.
16. You can still release, shed or destroy whatever it is that’s not in alignment. That way of being. That way of thinking about yourself. That relationship pattern. That willingness to participate in low-vibration conversations. Those burdensome belongings. That way of looking at the world. Those beliefs that keep you hiding and holding back. 
17. You can still declutter your house and your speech.
18. You can still start practicing a declaration or mantra like: “I am poised and powerful, radiant and magnetic.”
19. You can still speak life into your dreams, your loved ones and yourself.
20. You can still enjoy this moment. And this one, too.
21. You can still take a baby step toward speaking up for yourself, saying what you mean, asking for what you need. Even one time. Or 100 times, before the end of the year.
22. You can still plant something. In your yard or in your heart.
23. You can still fire someone. From your team or from your life. Lovingly, but still.
24. You can still see what needs seeing.
25. You can still say what needs saying.
26. You can still adopt a dog. Or a highway. Or a person. 
27. You can still change your name. (I just changed mine. I’ll tell you all about it soon.)
28. You can still take a journey, figurative or literal. 
29. You can take a sacred pause.
30. You can create some space. 
31. You can make that space sacred.
32. You can create an altar.
33. You can open your heart to someone. 
34. You can forgive someone. 
35. You can forgive yourself. 
36. You can stop judging yourself for something.  
37. You can decide that your parents were good enough. 
38. You can decide to become your own inner nurturant parent 
39. You can read these things to say to an anxious child and start saying them to yourself. 
40. You can let yourself off the hook. 
41. You can rush less. 
42. You can stop doing something you committed to do a long time ago, because it’s someone else’s turn to take over that now. 
43. You can indulge yourself. 
44. You can drape yourself in cashmere. Because: cashmere.
45. You can remove one scarcity-based phrase from your speech. 
46. You can listen to your gut on something you wouldn’t normally.
47. You can stop listening to someone you normally would.
48. You can play the same song on repeat all day and sing it loudly.
49. You can pause.
50. You can revel in something. Anything.
51. You can start meditating.
52. You can learn some Afrobeat choreography.
53. You can cause one corner of one room in your home to be your favorite place on Earth.
54. You can nourish yourself. 
55. You can drink an extra glass of water every day.
56. You can try meatless Mondays and just see what happens. 
57. You can dedicate 15 minutes a day to sitting and reconnecting with your own inner guidance.
58. You can brain dump all your grudges and grievances out, 2 mornings a week, and leave that drama on the page.
59. You can decide what you want your next season to be about. 
60. You can decide what you stand for and declare what you’re about.
61. You can decide to be joyful for no damn reason.
62. You can bless the memories of those you’ve lost this year or this lifetime.
63. You can bless someone. Anyone. You can go all out and reverse a curse. Or you can just bless your food or grocery delivery driver with a massive tip, even though you’ll never meet them face-to-face.
64. You can decide that life is long and let yourself daydream every day about what wonders could come into your life, in hypothetical, surprising and delightful ways.
65. You can say a prayer.
66. You can say I love you.
67. You can open your heart.
68. You can open your mind. 
69. You can close a chapter. 
70. You can close your struggle portfolio. Stop rehashing. Stop re-injuring yourself.
71. You can start a new season. Fresh and new. Starting now. 

Head up + heart out,

The Inner Critic Coach™

P.S.: Thank you for your beautiful notes and prayers about my son. He’s still in the hospital for now, and is in very good hands. 

Tara-Nicholle Nelson, MA, Esq.
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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If you’re not familiar with it, US Highway 1 is a loooong, two-lane road that twists and winds its way up the cliffside along the California Coast for hundreds and hundreds of miles. 

And there’s a quirky little thing on the side of this iconic road that always cracks me up.

When I drive north on the 1 from the San Francisco Bay Area toward Mendocino, what unfolds to my left is the vast expanse of the Pacific Ocean, swirling and crashing in all its majesty and power.

And all along the drive, on my right, there are a series of small, plain brown freeway signs interspersed occasionally along the road. 

They say, simply:

“Coastal View”, in white, with a little white arrow that points to the ocean on your left.

Like: “Hiiii! If you’re looking at this sign… look to your left. You’re missing the ocean!”

Every time I see one of those signs, I laugh at the idea that someone might miss the entire ocean because they were looking in the wrong direction. (Real talk, apparently enough people did miss the ocean to justify putting up signs.)

But the truth is that we all do this exact thing in our real lives, all the time. We are all always surrounded by the people, resources and opportunities we need to fulfill our sacred contracts to be, do, have, learn and create whatever our souls are calling us to do. 

These resources are all around us all the time. 

But we’re only able to see those collaborators and energize those opportunities and accept the assistance that is all around us through the lens of our present beliefs and expectations about the world and about what is available to us. 

These beliefs and expectations are often wired into an inaccurate, isolating, help-obscuring relational template with life early in life, whether from the trauma of being forced to survive without sufficient help very young, or from consistently being rewarded for doing hard things without asking for help and without inconveniencing the adults in our world. 

If you were labeled “gifted” as a child, you might even have been conditioned to believe that needing help is weak or makes you susceptible to bad things happening, that you cannot trust that things will work out well in your life unless you personally spin every single plate, 100% of the time.
This template miswiring is the source of “duck syndrome”, where you try to appear cool and calm on social media while silently struggling and flailing and flapping your feet madly to stay afloat, under the surface.

This broken template is the source of all manner of what I call “moats”, signals we broadcast that keep the people who desire to help us do the hard parts of life at a distance, depriving ourselves of help and of love, connection and community. 

This miswiring is the source of the extreme, dysfunctional ultra-independence I call “I’ll do it myself” syndrome: the detrimental, unconscious inability to receive help or support from others. This is the joy-limiting, soul-shackling, life-limiting curse of the hyper-competent that causes you to spend your whole life doing All of the Things All of the Time, because something deep down thinks you’ll lose points or lose love or lose everything if you stand down, sit still and let others do their part.

So then you attract people who want you to fix everything and do all of the work.

And you cripple those around you, teaching them helplessness by doubting their power.

And you don’t ask for the help that is your Divine Inheritance. 

And you keep your visionary light hidden, because you’re so overextended and busy Getting Things Done, even if they’re not really the things that are the most important to you. 

And at work, you don’t make the business case for the resources you really need. The people you need. The budget you need. Instead, you stay small and play small by doing everything yourself instead of learning how to create and activate a team.

And then your personal and business dreams begin to feel so daunting and impossible because you’re already overextended, and when you envision your dreams you assume that you’ll have to do all of the work yourself, too.

Until one day a crisis or problem in your life flat-out requires more than you can do on your own. And that forces you to seek and receive help. And if you let it, that experience kickstarts the rewiring of this broken template of isolating, dysfunctional ultra-independence. You start to see that there’s a vast ocean of untapped resources all around you, above you, and within you, too. And you begin to learn how to see and leverage those resources.

I’ve learned that the scariest situations and most overwhelming problems in my life are like those brown highway signs. It’s rare, but every time I feel like I might be approaching a breaking point, I’ve learned that I’m being asked to turn my chin to the left by just 6 or 8 inches… so I can see the ocean.

Here’s what I mean. 

Last Transformation Tuesday, a couple days before my birthday, my 27-year-old son was gravely wounded in a violent crime in San Francisco.

He had life-saving emergency surgery. He’s still in hospital, as we speak, but his recovery prognosis looks hopeful.

As the days immediately following his injury unfolded, as we hurtled toward the weekend, when two-year-old Londyn wouldn’t be in daycare, I wondered how on earth I would manage the sleep deprivation and emotionally exhausting days of phone calls, visits and medical conferences for him and also care for a very high-energy, extroverted, outdoor-obsessed 2-year-old with five-star food and customer service standards. 

Enter: my best friends. Or, as Londyn calls them: The Aunties.

First, my homegirl Auntie Felicia showed up, took Londyn for the day and gave her the time of her life. 

Then that evening, my bff Auntie Kysha and her daughter Selah came through.

Next morning was Auntie Rebecca. 

That afternoon, Auntie Monisha and Uncle Jonny.

It was like that old Kanye “Woefully Misguided” West lyric: “So many Aunties we could have an Auntie team.”

Every time another Auntie showed up, my little extrovert squealed with glee. 

That night as I put her to bed, she ran through the list of everyone she’d gotten to see this weekend and threw her arms around me and said “thank you, Mamaaaaa.”

She’d had a wonderful weekend. 

And I didn’t do anything to make that happen, except to allow others to show up for us. 

This was an eye-opening experience.

Because basically all of these people have been offering to take Londyn occasionally and give me a little downtime, for many, many moons.

But I’d been telling myself a bunch of stories to the effect that I couldn’t really take them up on those offers.

I’d been telling myself the story that I needed to spend all of her non-daycare time with her. 

I’d been telling myself that I needed a deeper roster of paid sitters, vs. imposing on my busy, powerhouse friends. 

I’d been telling myself that they really might not understand what hang-time with a 2-year-old is actually like.

And in telling myself these stories, I was building a moat. Help was on the way, but I was keeping it at bay. 

I was missing the ocean. 

This help with Londyn from The Auntie Team was just one of a dozen different oceans of help, resources and collaboration that opened up to me, in the past week.

It’s one thing to live through this sort of traumatic terror. 

But it’s a different thing to live through it knowing that both the beauty and the terrors of life are always revealing important things to you, if you stay open to seeing them.

And it’s a radically perspective-shifting experience to live through something like this and feel… YES… exhausted and so sad, but also so supported. So resourced.

It starts to heal your “I’ll do it myself” feedback loop that was miswired when you were so young. 

It starts to remind you to look for help. To ask for help. To allow help. To receive help. 

And not just from above, which I’m pretty good at.

Help from all around you. 

If you relate to the idea of being extremely, dysfunctionally ultra-independent, let me tell you something, [First Name].

Despite what you learned when you were little, you are not getting extra credit in life for doing hard things all by yourself.

You are not getting extra credit in life for doing things the hardest possible way.

Despite what you learned when you were young, working your heart out is NOT the way to create your dream business or your dream life.

In fact, the opposite is true.

The people who build the big, life-changing things know that you can’t build big things on your own.

The way to real-ize your life-changing dreams is to get clear on your vision and get into alignment with it, by becoming a magnet to all the collaborators and components of your dream.

You might not think you have the connections or the money or the whatever you need for the dream that’s in your heart. 

But in my experience, you almost certainly know someone and have some resource that you need to take the next step into your calling right now, that you are simply not accessing or leveraging.

You might not be fully leveraging your inner resources, like your inner wisdom and all your sacred gifts and talents. 

Almost no one I know is fully leveraging their relationships. Every week I talk to at least one high-achieving human who has told themselves their house, their finances, their business plan or their website isn’t yet good enough to reach out to this person or that one who could unlock major new possibilities for them. 

And that, [First Name], is how you miss the ocean.

As I write this, I’m reminded of a scene that stuck with me from the Netflix documentary about Clarence Avant, who they call The Black Godfather.

There was a moment when this power broker, who was behind the scenes of the careers of everyone from Bill Withers to Bill Clinton to Barack Obama, looked straight into the camera and said these words: 

“I don’t have problems. I have friends.”

And you do, too. 

Friendly, universal forces seeking to assist you.

Physical, human friends. 

Collaborative components lighting up and lining up all around you. 

So when the unfathomable happens and you’re not sure you have the capacity to handle it, remember this: Ask yourself what you’re not seeing. Open your eyes to the resources you already possess, but aren’t leveraging. Turn your chin just maybe 6 or 8 inches to the left, so you don’t miss the ocean.

Don’t be literal-minded about it, but get still and quiet and tap into the essence of what Clarence Avant said when he said: “I don’t have problems. I have friends.”

Head up + heart out,

The Inner Critic Coach™

P.S.: When I say leverage your resources, I mean that in the very oldest sense of the word. A lever is what the cave-folk used to lift boulders bigger than they could have with their limited human muscle. 

Every time you’re feeling called (or forced) to do something bigger than you think you, personally can do, look for your leverage. 

And if you start looking for leverage, you’ll find it. You’ll find it in your focus, in your clarity, in your connection to the higher forces that run this place and in your connection to other people.

Tara-Nicholle Nelson, MA, Esq.
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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Ninety five percent of the high-achieving people I work with feel like their life hasn’t ever fully taken off, even well into their 40’s, 50s and 60’s… even when their lives look wonderful from the outside looking in.

Pavlovian parenting from decades ago has almost everyone you know holding their breath to enjoy their life until they “make it”. Like only after you cross off some herculean task from the great To-Do List in the Sky, can you finally take a nap and give yourself a food treat.

But that clenching and waiting transmutes, over a lifetime, into a hard-wired Inner Critic script of “you’re not ready”, chronic delay and false prerequisites. 

And that becomes a chronic habit of procrastination and hiding your own light. 

Then your Inner Critic judges you for that, too. The worse it gets, the worse it gets.

The antidote is to remember that radical acceptance doesn’t just mean loving your cellulite.

Radical acceptance means radically opening warm arms to the realities of how life works in this Universe.

The reality that small things grow and you don’t have to make that happen.

The reality that every creation requires a period of gestation.

The reality that everything is a process and you’re not the boss of the timing.

The reality—the Universal law—that all expansion is preceded by contraction: the labor pains of this Universe.

The reality that Divine Timing is real and always in your favor, even your delays will bless you if you let them.

Stop future-tripping.

Stop waiting.

Stop controlling.

Your life is right now, in the process of wanting things to change and not yet knowing how they will. In the process of feeling the disharmonics that will call solutions and alignment forth.

Your life is right now.

The day you catch this principle and stop holding your breath is the day you start to get your life back.

Head up + heart out,

The Inner Critic Coach™
 
P.S.: My 45th birthday is Friday! I’ve wanted to be a 45-year-old woman since I was 9, so this is a particularly sweet one. 
 
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Tara-Nicholle Nelson, MA, Esq.
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