NOTE: I promised you a Transformation Tuesday on the subject of how to interpret illness and injury and Spiritual Strategies for those seasons, and one you shall have. As my own real life experience unfolds in real time and as I work on that piece for you, the insights Iare ripening and dropping in powerfully and in Divine Timing. Look for something soon!

As I sat in my Daily Ritual today, what follows is was what wanted to come through me to you. It happens to be a lesson that comes from when Londyn and I got COVID, but it’s not all about that. I’m a big fan of following Inner Guidance, so…here we go!

***

A while back, Londyn and I holed up for 10 days with COVID. I’d been vaccinated months before, and our cases were pretty mild. It was much less stressful than you might imagine, for a bunch of reasons. 

When our tests came back positive, the stress of wondering was almost instantly replaced with the relief that so often comes when the worst case scenario you’ve been dreading actually happens… and catastrophe does not, in fact, ensue. 

Then a ripple effect of more and more relief unfolded, as I realized I would now be extra immune, and she would get a natural immunity that was unavailable to a 3-year-old in any other way. 

So I sat her on my lap, touched my forehead to hers and said, “Bun, we’re going to stay at our house for awhile. Let’s make it magical. Okay?” (insert fist bump and major fist bump explosion with sound effects here.)

And we did. We made it magical. 

We dressed up in tutus (her) and Dior dresses I’d bought in Paris and on the Riviera (me). 

We made up a new nightly ritual where I turned on the “ballet music” (aka Classical Relaxation station on Spotify), while she pirouetted around the living room. Then we’d find our coziest blanket and snuggle up to read every story in The Goddess Book, until she fell asleep. 

I ruthlessly cleared out one closet every day, generating five contractor bags full of wonderful things I eventually posted on my neighborhood’s Buy Nothing site, watching them disappear off my front porch into the hands and homes of grateful neighbors. 

We cooked and baked wonderful things for the joy of it (because we couldn’t really taste them.)

Our friends and neighbors (and local delivery angels) dropped off yummy dinners and groceries and flowers and ibuprofen at our front door, waving and blowing us kisses through the window. 

We took leisurely naps. We slept more than normal. We ate dinners on the back deck, savoring both the food and the gratitude for the space and place that we’ve been blessed with. 

But for the first 6 or 7 days, I still worked. Just a few hours a day, but intense hours. I did a round of executive interviews for a client. I reported back on them. I wrote and shipped that week’s Transformation Tuesday newsletter. 

Until Day 7. 

On Day 7 of quarantine, I had my regular therapy session. My therapist, a wonderfully sage and smart Jungian, asked me how we were faring. I reported that our respiratory symptoms were all but gone, with just the fatigue and mental fogginess lingering. 

Oh, and the headaches, I said. The headaches are terrible.

She asked me a few more questions and I shared about our glorious week, and the work I’d been able to still get done during quarantine. 

This gave her pause. At first, she gently suggested that I consider whether I could move some things off my calendar and stop working for a few days. 

But by the end of the conversation, she said much more forcefully than she’s ever spoken to me before: “Tara, stop working. For a week. No more. I insist.” She wasn’t playing around. 

So I stopped, which was very hard to do. I had to withdraw from a meeting that was very important the very next day after my “no work” order came down. I couldn’t help but see how often my mind veered to work, over the next few days, to a point I’d almost describe as obsessive. 

When I let that time of illness be a time of REAL stillness and focus, I could see how much of my Life and Self were dedicated to work in ways that I was no longer even totally in control of, and no longer totally approved of. And that very next week, I made some key shifts at SoulTour that would kickstart a ripple effect of alignment. You’ll hear much more soon. 

What a gift Miriam (my therapist) gave me by seeing my misalignment and saying what needed saying to me: Don’t work. 

One moral of this story is to make sure you have people in your life who, no matter how powerful you are and what a badass you may be, will commit to seeing what needs seeing and saying what needs saying, in a graceful, constructive, iron-sharpens-iron kind of way. 

And moral #2 is to receive what they say not with blind obedience or harsh self-criticism, but with the commitment to self-compassion, self-awareness and feeling what your Inner Guidance knows is resonant and true. 

But Moral #3… and the real point of all this… comes from something Miriam said to me just before we got off our Zoom therapy session that day. 

She said something that I’ve been thinking about, acting on and sharing with my students ever since: 

She said: “Tara, you have been responsible for other people and for big things for so much of your life. People will always want more of you, and you love to do so many different things that there’s a never-ending flow of things you could be doing.

You are a very reliable, responsible and available person. But I think you will benefit from becoming much, much more selective about what you agree to be reliable, responsible and available for.”

Me, silently: Well, damn. 

When she dropped the mic—reliable, responsible, available—my very next thought was of a sacred line of Scripture I’d just read in a new (to me) translation, about how our Divine Inheritance is to live a “wide-open, spacious life.”

Reliable. Responsible. Available. 

Catch this principle, Brilliant One: Practicing discernment and sovereignty on these subjects is the key that unlocks your wide-open, spacious life.

I’d never thought of these qualities as things you can overdo. 

But the moments after she said that were moments of rapidly snowballing clarity. 

I could see how so often I’d agreed to be overly reliable, responsible or available. 

I could see how I’d created whole programs, projects and businesses over the years where I was very responsible and reliable, but  was requiring little or nothing from the other side. 

I could see how the breakdowns and not-thriving areas were often areas where I was bearing way too much load myself, not asking for help or support and straining my system and spiritual infrastructure. 

I could see how I have a habitual pattern of creating new commitments by saying yes to incoming people, opportunities and things that are WONDERFUL and beneficial opportunities in general, but strain my system and spark struggle. 

I could see how the projects and relationships I struggled with were the ones where my over-reliability, responsibility and availability was maxing out capacity. X My wise Inner Being was saying a hearty “no ma’am” and pumping the brakes, without my conscious consent x. 

And over the next few days, this recognition did what all good spiritual alarm-clocks do, when you live with a commitment to hear and to heed them: It gave me permission to commit to my wide-open, spacious life and to living it deeply-resourced, deeply-connected, and all the way in my Zone of Genius.

And that acted like a spotlight on the things in my life that were not in alignment with that x. 

And that emboldened me to tell my team and my vendors I’m cutting my workload almost in half, permanently, effective now. Not so that I can free up the time and energy for other projects. So I can keep our ballet music ritual going, and spend more time with my friends, and get into nature more…and read more, and write more deep, delicious things…and take swim lessons with Londyn instead of using that half hour to answer 10 emails.

And that emboldened me to stop a bunch of wonderful projects cold.

No, seriously. 

I called up people who had paid thousands of dollars for things and told them transparently about my reset. And we worked it all out… effortlessly.

I called up vendors and said, you know all that stuff we planned to build next year? Nope. Not doing it. We’re going all in on this ONE thing we already do well. 

We’re going Beast Mode on OUR ONE THING.

And they LOVED it. 

It alleviated our Zerissenheit, that feeling of torn-to-pieces-hood. 

It sharpened their focus. 

It sharpened my focus. 

It increased our space and the size of the vision for the SINGLE thing we ARE deciding to do.

It deepened my depth. 

I suspect that this COVID revelation will turn out to be the thing I reflect on 20 or 30 years from now, as having been pivotal in reshaping my life, and my empires, in wonderful ways. 

So I wanted to share it with you.

You can be too reliable, responsible and available. 

Those are generally good things to be. But you can do them too much. And when you do, you strain the system, and limit your joy.

So the real flex is this: Discerning what to be reliable, responsible and available to. Being very, very selective. Being courageous enough to say no to people, projects and things that are very money making, or even fun and fulfilling so you can pour into your most important things, including … your very own wide-open spacious life. 

Head up + heart out,

PS: There’s a whole after-story about what happened next, which you’ll find resonant, eye-opening and heart-opening, especially if you have any trauma or trust issues. I’ll share it soon.

PPS: I  have a bunch of announcements coming down the pike. I kickstarted them last week with the announcement that my adoption of Londyn is now final! 

Here’s the post from that, with a bunch of photos from our last two years together, which I promise you is content you need today.  Transformation Tuesday | What do you worship?  Watch: www.instagram.com/tv/CUXuo67FOKk Listen: https://soundcloud.com/tara-nicholle-nelson/transformation-tuesday-this-comes-after-crisis Read: www.taranicholle.com/transformation-tuesday-what-do-you-worship/

Tara-Nicholle Kirke, MA, Esq.
The Inner Critic Coach™️
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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There’s an Old Testament story that people always tell the wrong way. (According to me.)

In the story, King David’s beloved child—a tiny infant—gets very, very sick. 

For 7 days, David sits vigil. He refuses to eat. He prays and pleads with God for his son’s recovery. He wears sackcloth and sleeps on the floor, refusing all his normal luxuries and creature comfort. 

And then the little boy dies. 

David’s servants are so concerned about how he’ll take the news that they’re scared to even tell him. But he figures it out. 

And when he gets confirmation that the boy has died, David gets up off the floor, takes a shower, washes his face, gets dressed and asks for a meal. Then he eats. 

David’s household staff was like: “Wait what? You were sooooo devastated when the child was just sick. But now he’s dead and you’re good?” 

David said something to the effect of: “Before, I was hoping that my cries and pleas would help him survive. But now that he’s gone, all the tears in the world won’t bring him back. I’ll see him again someday.” 

Every time I’ve ever heard that story, I’ve heard it told as a story of resilience. When you hit the rough stuff, when you lose something precious, when a season ends against your will, don’t wail and moan. 

Get up, wash your face, get back in the saddle. 

But the most powerful part of the story hasn’t even been told yet. 

After David ate, he went to comfort his wife. And during all this “comforting”, she got pregnant and eventually gave birth to another son, Solomon. 

That baby would eventually become King Solomon, the historical Jewish emperor whose very name symbolizes wisdom, clear-minded discernment and incredible prosperity.* 

So, as I read it, the moral of the story is not “get up and wash your face”.

The moral of the story as I read it, is that after a grave crisis… after a season of loss… after death and mourning comes creation and wisdom. 

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All the ancient spiritual traditions had the principle of death preceding rebirth and creation, or the destruction of war being paired with the blossoming of wisdom.

The Hindu goddess Kali was a dark mother, representing death and destruction of the ignorance, ego and illusions that keep us trapped in our cycles, including and especially the delusion of permanency, aka the fear of change. 

Kali’s black skin symbolized “primordial”, meaning she was present before the Earth and before human time began. And so she holds the primal balance of the Universe in her symbolic hands: death before life, darkness before dawn, destruction before creation. 

Paintings of Kali have four hands, two for destruction and two for creation—her right hands held out to bestow blessings, and her left hands holding a sword to destroy illusion and a severed head (no big deal).

Kali destroys demonic forces in order to liberate, then creates fresh blessings and possibilities each and every day.

The Egyptian goddess Neith the Terrifying? Same. She wielded the power to destroy all things… then weaved the sun into the sky and re-create the world each morning.

The Greek goddess Athena? Same. Goddess of war strategy… and wisdom.

Destruction. Creation. Death. Rebirth. War. Wisdom.

They go together in spirit… and they also go together in science.

The elements of everything that has ever lived and died on this Planet are recycled into the new things that now live. 

Including you and me. 

And everything you’ve ever wanted that didn’t work out, everything you’ve ever tried and failed at, every season of your life that’s ever ended… all of that creates and prepares the space for fresh, new things to be born. 

But more importantly, all your past “endings”—the death, the destruction, the collateral damage of the wars within you and around you—they create clarity and wisdom.

But please catch this principle: You can’t start receiving and leveraging the clarity and wisdom of your crises or losses until you acknowledge them, grieve them and open yourself to the creation that wants to flow to you and through you next.

Only you can leave the death season, and only you can know when the time is right.

A good sign is when you’re getting bored of telling your own (rightfully) sad stories… or when you’re feeling drawn to a new thing.  

But only you can elect to emerge from the dark season, and you must make that election in order to emerge.

Only you can decide not to let your traumatizers have any more of the precious moments of your life.

You will have to step out of your Comfort Zone and into your Discomfort Zone, sit down at your loom like the goddess Neith and begin to weave your new world into life. 

And there’s no exact instructional PDF for this. There is no exact instruction manual for this. So you may feel untethered and the process may feel messy.

It might even feel terrifying. 

But radical liberation is, by definition, untethering. 

You’ll find ground again, eventually, and it will be higher ground.

And anytime you’re in a dark season, or you feel the darkness beginning to lift, know these things: 

1. The darkness will end. It’s the cosmic balance. 
2. The end of the darkness is not the end of the story. It’s the beginning of the next chapter.

Let things take the time they take. Grieve what needs grieving. Process what needs processing.

And then, when the time feels right… begin your gracious, graceful, grateful exit from the grief story. 

Gather up the pieces of yourself you may have rediscovered in the shadows. 

Collect the clarity that is always trying to come to us during a crisis.

Keep everything from your past and current circumstances that establishes wisdom and clarity and Divine Order in your mind, body and affairs, beginning now.

And ask the power within you to sweep everything from your consciousness, mind, body and affairs that is not Divinely planted or beneficial to you.* 

Decide to forgive everyone in your life and release them with love so they can be free and you can be free.**

And allow your wise unconscious to reorder your understanding of what has happened in a way that bypasses nothing and distills the wisdom you’ll need to feed and fuel your future.

Let nothing be lost on you.

Then, slowly or exuberantly, participate fully and joyfully in weaving your new world—your new projects, your new body, your new relationships, your new ways of being, your new life—into creation.

Head up + heart out,

*If you’re upset at the idea of one child “replacing” another, remember this: The way to get the most out of any sacred text you’ll ever read is to read it symbolically. David’s “children” were historical, but also symbolized any important precious thing we create: our most sacred contracts, callings, relationships and realities.

**Adapted from a Florence Scovel Shinn declaration in Your Word is Your Wand

***Adapted from a Louise Hay affirmation in You Can Heal Your Life

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Transformation Tuesday | What do you worship?

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This came straight out of my journal, unfiltered – note that the audio and video versions have a good amount of additional commentary this time, in case you want to watch or listen:

What do you worship? 

So many who claim to worship sacred things actually worship the fear of death and rejection, and because of these fears commit spiritual suicide ten times a day, aborting their own creations before they can even take root in unseen realms.

So many put scarcity, unworthiness and discomfort on the altar, letting the fear of both run their lives. 

We all have things we most fear, and by so doing create.

The good news is that both the mythic victory and the mythic monsters live within.

We are the hero. 

We are the villain. 

We are the mentor. The aide. The guide. The tools.

Reuniting all these parts of us with each other and with Source… that’s the quest.

The process of reclaiming these parts is the job description. 

Sooner or later, we assent to the adventure.

Sooner or later we realize that it’s time to decide who we’re going to be.

*****

So, I want to leave you with these questions for reflection or writing today, [First Name]:

What does your current life reveal that you’ve been worshipping? 

Be real with yourself, without judging yourself: To what do you give most of your attention, affection, adoration, appreciation? 

What about that is not in alignment with who you really are, and why you’re really here? 

May the light of awareness dissolve what holds you back. 

P.S.: Did you miss last week’s newsletter? Want to watch, listen or read again? 

Here you go! 

Transformation Tuesday | Goldilocks

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At the library last week, Londyn and I checked out this book:

Goldilocks and the 3 Dinosaurs, as retold by Mo Willems.


It’s a super adorable, super enjoyable little book in a lot of ways. It updates and retells the classic children’s Goldilocks story from the premise that the house Goldilocks breaks into actually belongs to these 3 dinosaurs who love to eat chocolate-filled little girls. 

These dinosaurs set the “poorly supervised” Goldilocks up. 

So instead of her sticking with the script and going to the 3 bears’ house, the dinos reroute her into their house, trick her into stuffing herself with chocolate pudding and … you can imagine the rest. 

Kind of sinister. Kind of dark. Kind of cute. Kind of like all good fairy tales. 

BUT. This book is kind of deep, too.

For one, there are all these hints throughout the book that something ain’t right. 

And Goldilocks just misses one hint after another because she’s so motivated by the pudding and the idea of a post-pudding nap.

She moves through the house overruling the evidence before her and, ostensibly, her own Wise Inner Being… her own Inner Intelligence… until just before the story ends. 

A page or two from the end, she overhears the dinos plotting to eat her as soon as she falls asleep. 

With one eyebrow cocked up, she takes a sacred pause.

And she considers the long list of things she had encountered in the house that had felt a little off. 

Disharmonies within her Inner Guidance system that she had been overruling:
… the “Home Dinosaur Home” sign on the wall becomes more apparent. 
… the incredibly tall height of the kitchen counters, which she’d had to climb up using a ladder…. goes from being weird to being a clue she almost missed.
…and the fact that the chairs and beds all seemed way too large, even for bears, starts to glare. 

In a moment of clarity, Goldilocks realizes that this house wasn’t the three little bears’ house. It is a dinosaur house. 

And she hightails it out of the place, just as the dinos burst in to devour her. She is saved by her own belated, but accurate, Inner Guidance system.

Theeee End. 

Well, that page of the book says The End.

But if you turn one more page, like Londy and I did, you see this note from the author: 

“The moral is that if you find yourself in the wrong story, leave the story.”

Hunh. 

That doesn’t sound like a little kid lesson, does it?

But I’m pretty sure Mo didn’t put that line in just for kids.

That was a word for someone reading or listening to this today.

The moral of Goldilocks and the 3 Dinos is: if you find yourself in the wrong story, leave the story.

Leave the story.

I don’t care if you’ve been overriding your own eyes and ears for 20 years.

I don’t care how much of your life or career you have sunk into this situation that you know ain’t right and ain’t your story.

None of that matters.

Someone reading this today needs to hear this, so forgive me if that’s not you but also… WE ALL need this permission sometimes.

If you find yourself in the wrong story, leave the story.

And… let me say this. 

The love-and-light brigade won’t want me to say this, but it’s true, so here it is anyway: You did not personally write every plot point of the story you have lived and are living right now. 

This culture, this world’s toxic power structures and your spiritual and genealogical ancestors set some stuff in motion years before you were even born that impacts you and your life today. 

And right now today, your this-life traumas, your conditioning, your unconscious patterns, your disappointments, your relational templates with the world and with life and (blessedly) your sacred contracts may be more active in creating your reality than you’re aware of.

But spiritual maturity begins when you stop resisting the truth that you have near-limitless power to upgrade, create and rewrite your own story starting now. 

And the more you mature spiritually, emotionally and psychologically, the more skillful you get at not just fixing situations and relationships… and not just tolerating disharmonies… not just reframing stuff in your mind, but also at seeing necessary endings that need making and making them bad boys, skillfully or not. 

And sure, sometimes you can leave the story by changing the story.

Sometimes you can change the story by accepting something you’ve been resisting about the story. 

But sometimes, in a very real, very literal way, you need to stop telling yourself that leaving the story is failing or would be catastrophic and leave the story by… well, by actually leaving the story. 

You dig? 

I think you do. 

With so much love and respect I hope you can feeling it coming off your phone or laptop or speakers or however this is coming to you.

Head up + heart out,

Tara-Nicholle Kirke, MA, Esq.
The Inner Critic Coach™️
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

@taranicholle on FB | TW | IG | LI

At any given moment in life, there is a choice you can make. 

Scratch that. Let me say that differently.

In EVERY moment of your life, you are making a choice. 

That choice  — I call it The Choice — is whether to fulfill your potential or whether to hinder your own highest good.

This is spiritual law. It’s one of what I’ve come to call The House Rules of the Universe. 

There’s no super simple, absolute, black-and-white decision rule to help you make the right choice when you make The Choice. 

Sometimes, The Choice in favor of your highest good is to gear up, go all in and do the damn thing. 

Other times, The Choice that supports you reaching your full potential is to do nothing. To take a break. Take a vacation. Take a nap. 

Fortunately, you always have the ability to know whether the choice you’re making is a vote in favor of your good or not by how it feels when you are about to do it. 

If the thing you’re thinking about doing feels good, shackles off, energizing or expansive, it is a step toward your highest good… even if the thing also makes you feel nervous, afraid or vulnerable. 

If the option before you feels shackles on, depleting or like you’re letting your own self down… that’s a signal that it’s against your highest good and fullest potential.

The first step to getting skillful with this House Rule of the Universe is this: Get in a place of radical self-acceptance and self-love first. 

Do not decide that you love yourself enough to work on your choices and then hate yourself for the choices you’ve made or are making. 

That just feeds your Inner Critic. And that defeats the whole purpose. 

I’m not big on convincing people to do anything ever, but here’s a super-short list of my arguments why you should suspend self-judgment while you look at your choices:

1. Self-judgment never creates self-liberation so it’s 100% counterproductive.
2. You have no ability to change your past choices so judging yourself for them is wasted energy you could be using to make self-actualizing choices now.
3. Almost any wise human you ever meet will tell you they got that way, in part, by making choices they wouldn’t repeat and reflecting on those choices and how things turned out. 
4. When wise humans reflect on their lives backwards, they see both the unwanted consequences of their past choices and the wonderful things that came to them despite or even through the unwanted seasons or upsetting moments in their past. 

Listen: You have to decide not to judge or criticize yourself when you start to see the choices you’re making or have made in the past, or you’re not allowed to keep reading, watching or listening to this message. 

I’m serious. If you can’t agree to suspend the need to judge yourself for the choices you make, no problem. I love you. Close this email. Have a beautiful week. See you next time. 

Oh, you CAN commit? No self-judgment? No self-criticism? 

Can you take a step outside yourself and become an objective observer of your own choice-making for even a day? 

Ok cool, then you can keep reading. 

Now. The second step is to become aware that you’re making The Choice all the time, and to become aware of how you are making the Choice. So much of our decision-making is habitual, that it’s very easy to unwittingly find yourself in a downward spiral, living the results of autopilot decisions you made (and are still making, out of habit) that limit the extent to which the genius within is ever allowed out. 

And the third step is to get intentional about The Choice more and more of the time, making Choices that feel better and better to you over time and then watching the net level of freedom, liberation, wholeness, joy, health, wealth, wisdom, abundance and unfettered self-expression rise as you make The Choice over and over again, in the small things and in the big ones. 

But that part kind of happens automatically if you really dive deep on Step 2: Awareness. So let’s go back there.

Just becoming aware that you are voting for yourself or against yourself in every moment helps to break the pull of those habit patterns. 

So I want you to start to see the many, many ways this choice … this vote for your highest good or vote for your inner critic… can look in your everyday life.

Catch this principle: Your opportunities to make The Choice number in the thousands every day. 

Here’s what they can look like: 

You get to choose whether to think a self-judging thought or a self-loving thought.

You get to choose whether to make an excuse or whether to reclaim your power by taking responsibility, even if that’s uncomfortable. 

You get to choose whether to have uplifting or complaining conversations. And every time you find yourself in a complaining conversation, you get to choose whether to keep participating in it, or shift it, or end it… at any time. 

You get to choose whether, what and how much to eat (most of the time).

You get to choose what food to even have on hand, in your home. (Most of the time.)

You get to choose whether to select your food based on what truly nourishes your body or to eat your emotions. 

You get to choose whether to binge one more show or to read something beneficial before bed. 

You get to choose whether to hate on your job or to bloom where you’re planted, even when you decide it’s time to move on. 

You get to choose whether to gossip or to praise. 

You get to choose whether to keep overcommitting your calendar  x and overextending yourself or whether to practice saying no and create more space and time in your life. 

You get to choose whether to build a rich inner life or whether to avert your eyes from looking within because you’re afraid of what you’ll find. 

You get to choose whether to ask for what you need or to play the martyr.

When your kids feel bad or can’t access their neurological impulse control centers, you get to choose whether to connect and soothe or to yell and threaten. Up to you. 

You get to choose whether to do the inner work to heal your family’s patterns or to keep perpetuating them.

You get to decide whether to let your this-lifetime trauma, your traumatized ancestors and this toxic culture be the boss of you or whether you’re ready to turn within, shine light on your shadows and reclaim your sovereignty and your life. 

And… you get to choose whether to rush and judge the pace and progress of your Inner Work or to make peace with yourself, let things take the time they take and start living the wide-open, spacious life you came here to live. 

In any given moment you get to choose whether to stop disrespecting, overruling and overriding the voice of your own Inner Intelligence or whether to start recognizing it, honoring it and obeying it because it is the voice of Infinite Intelligence sending you a text message like “NO don’t do that. Don’t go there. Yes! Raise your hand for that. You’re ready for this. I’ll help.”

Every freaking moment of your life, you get to decide whether to be stingy or lavish with yourself.

… and that’s just off the top of my head. 

Catch this principle: 

All day, all throughout the day, every single day you are making The Choice to receive or resist your highest good, over and over again.

I don’t want you to feel terrorized by this.

I want you to feel the power in this.

And I want you to know what they say in Tibet, that “if you take care of the minutes, the years will take care of themselves.”

If you make The Choice to step toward fulfilling your potential this minute… and then in the next one… over and over again…

If you make The Choice to follow your Wise Inner Guidance in this minute…

If you close your eyes and sit with the question of what kind of human you really want to be, then you open your eyes and make a decision to show up as that person in this minute… 

And if you make The Choice in this moment to stop participating in anything other than  what you want… 

The years will take care of themselves. 

The seemingly Big Stuff will take care of itself. 

The stars will align. 

And so will the rest of your life. 

I dare you. Try it. Start now. 

Head up + heart out,

Tara-Nicholle Kirke, MA, Esq.
The Inner Critic Coach™️
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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I’ve spent the last couple of months in a cloister of my own making, deep in Monk Mode.

First in Mexico, then back here as Londyn and I got COVID, quarantined and reemerged better than before. (I’ll tell you that part next week.)

Stillness begets clarity. So does illness, for that matter. 

So I got a double portion of clarity. Heaping. Overflowing. 

Clarity that my life’s work is helping smart, successful people do their dreams.

Clarity that the way I do it is by helping them understand, unpack and undo their lifelong self-sabotage patterns.

Clarity that all self-sabotage is rooted in the Inner Critic within. 

Clarity that my unique method for helping transform the Inner Critic is what I call Spiritual Strategy, rooted in neurobiology, depth psychology and spiritual law (aka “the House Rules of the Universe”).

Clarity that I don’t want to work that hard anymore. 

Clarity that I’m getting away from a lot of the writing, consulting and services I’ve done in the past… so I can focus on writing and podcasting and speaking the deep, liberating messages I’m called to share.

Clarity. Clarity. Clarity. 

It’s so delicious. 

And it’s so contagious. 

My team… my clients… my vendors… my partners… everyone involved in the ecosystem of my business has been getting a contact high off all this clarity. 

It’s kinda like in the Bible where it says to “write the vision and make it plain, that they may run who read it.”

Kind of like that. 

They running. Actually, they’re FLYING. We’re all flying, all in formation… all in sync, even as things shift and change, like a murmuration of starlings. 



(Side note for leaders, entrepreneurs and parents: If your “team” is not running or if some are flying in circles or running the wrong direction, YOU might need to take a Monk Mode moment and reset your own clarity, then come back. When you come back, communicate the new vision starting with your why, and ending with all the things you won’t be doing anymore so you can focus on the new. And just watch what happens. Actually, email me so I can hear what happens.)

But back to me. 

Still on this clarity high, I went on a joyful rampage this morning, journaling the breakthrough questions I would share with someone new to me. Someone who wants to take Step 1 on the journey into fulfilling their dreams.

Inspired by the old Diana Vreeland column in Harper’s Bazaar, I started with this suggestion phrase: WHY DON’T YOU…

And then I filled in the blanks.

I loved what flowed next, so I thought I’d share it with you. 

Next time you get an inspired idea or you have a jolt of inspiration to start doing your OWN dreams, consult this list. 

TARA’S MANIFESTO 

SPIRITUAL STRATEGIES FOR DOING YOUR DREAMS

Why don’t you…?

… speak only of what you want today.

… stop complaining. No, for real.

… give your Inner Critic, Inner Censor and Inner Editor the day off today.

Stop seeking approval or permission from anyone but your Wise Inner Being.

Radiate calm while all around you lose their heads.

Decide that you can be, do and have ANYTHING you want. 

Then, let yourself want what you really want. 

Pick the subject of your wildest dream and ask yourself “how easy can I let this be?”

Receive your Divine Inheritance.

Stop performing, conforming and achieving to get love, attention, affection or approval. 

Stop trying to be so damn productive. Start being fruitful instead.

Start with why.

Commit to becoming the person you came here to be. 

Do less. Receive more. 

Stop acting impoverished. You’re not. And you aren’t serving those who really are by fondling your fear fantasies.

Decide what you really want and stop participating in everything else. 

Get rid of ⅓ of what you own. 

Stop looking for love in all the wrong places and start seeing how much love is all around you and available to you. Not later… now. 

Lose track of time and lose yourself in blissful, single-minded absorption in something that delights you just because. 

Delight in the life you’ve created up to now.

Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. 

Stop overruling your inner guidance. 

Make peace with yourself.

Heed your own inner voice. 

Start living your unlived life. 

***END MANIFESTO (FOR NOW)***

Head up + heart out,

Tara-Nicholle Kirke, MA, Esq.
The Inner Critic Coach™️
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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Listen, Brilliant One. 

I heard there are some gurus out in the guru-sphere reminding you that you can do hard things.

And when I heard that, I thought…

“It’s true. We can. But my people don’t need to be reminded of that. They do hard things 13 times before breakfast. 

In fact, that’s the problem. 

Because hard things can get you pretty far in life. But the most meaningful, beautiful, joyful things in life don’t come that way. 

They come through the power of our focus. Our attention. Our willingness to listen when Inner Intelligence is speaking and go where Inner Guidance says to go. 

My people have been rewarded for performing…conforming…achieving… being productive… and doing hard things their whole lives. 

And 9 times out of 10, that’s what’s blocking the magic! 

That addiction to hard becomes a relational template with the whole Universe, where you can’t even see the wondrous unlived life that is waiting for you because you’re so used to everything good being so damn hard…”

That was my thought process. 

And just as I was thinking those thoughts, my student and client Meredith Vaish, the Creator and CEO of Pause Box, shared this:

And that was the tipping point, that last little thing that fell into place and reminded me to tell you something I’ve been meaning to tell you (again) for the sake of emphasis. 

Brilliant One, please, for the love of everything sacred:

Let it be easy.

Let it be easy. 

Let it be easy. 

Let it be easy.

Whatever it is. 

Try that on in your spirit. 

Get curious about it. 

If the idea that it could be easy feels like a spark of relief, immediately followed by a spark of argument (Easy is not real! That’s not how the world works! You don’t know my life!) then… you’re on the right track. 

If the mere phrase “let it be easy” sparks within you the temptation to pull out your struggle portfolio and start litigating the case for how real your struggle is… good. Let’s go there. 

If the idea that some stuff you’ve been doing the very hard way could actually be way easier sparks a frisson of terror in your heart, like it still occasionally does in mine, you might be on the trail of a radically liberating insight.

Here’s that insight: Very early in life, you might have learned that to get love, attention or affection, to avoid catastrophe or to be seen as valuable, worthy or a card-carrying member of your family, you have to be any of the following things: 

• Extraordinary
• Perfect
• Longsuffering
• Martyr of the Month
• The Director of the Universe*, spinning all the plates, all the time and smiling all along the way
• Busy
• Better than others
• Over-achieving
• Valiantly plugging away, doing hard things in every area of your life (even, in your relationships and hobbies)
• Never quitting or imposing boundaries on how hard you’ll go
• Never all the way “off” 
• Constantly putting forth super heroic effort.

If you had to be heroic to get your needs met as a child, your toxic penchant for struggle might be rooted in those very early life family patterns. This is what the author and psychologist Alice Miller deems the Drama of the Gifted Child. The “gifted” part describes how good the little You was at repressing your True Self to get what you needed. 

If the struggle “feels like home”, you will re-create it, over and over again as you go through life.  You will re-create that repression of your True Self, over and over again as you go through life. and you’ll even find that struggle just feels more comfortable, available and “right” than ease does. You might not even like people who seem to live on Easy Street, and you might reject, ignore or blow up opportunities for your own easeful, spacious life, over and over again.

But let me tell you something. Your True Self and your true life are not all about the struggle. I mean, have you ever met a toddler who was a martyr? 

Didn’t think so. 

So anything you were taught that says you must struggle to be worthy of love or to thrive is what I call a “lie”. These are the lies of well-meaning family members, and the lies of culture. 

But over a lifetime, these lies get wired into your worldview. They become internalized into the voice of your own inner critic. Your own imposter syndrome. Your own self-judgment and self-criticism. Your own harsh standards for yourself and the false prerequisites you place on your own joy. Your own harsh worldview and negative mental narratives about what kind of life is possible for you and how hard it has to be.

If your thoughts say that all of life is struggle, not struggling doesn’t even occur to you. Doing things the very hardest way feels like it might even endanger your existence. When things feel easy, you feel lazy. Like you’re courting catastrophe if you go all the way on vacation without checking a single email for a single week. 

A spacious, easeful lifestyle without constantly living on the clock might spark existential dread in your soul.

If struggle feels like home, you’ll create hard, to feel alive. You’ll take on difficult relationships or make easy ones difficult, because that just feels more “right”. That feels like home. 

The struggle lies, the unworthiness lies, are the lies that stop you from taking a nap. From taking a break. From getting the help you need. From taking things slow. 

These are the lies that stop you from saying no when everything within you wants to say no. 

These are the lies that cause you to overrule your own inner guidance, to push through that feeling of “shackles on” that would keep you out of depleting, joyless relationships, jobs and patterns if you only listened to it. 

These are the lies that cause you to take on more and more new obligations, without first ending old ones or getting help.

Please be aware that I’m using the harsh word “lies” with great intentionality here. 

That you must produce to have value is an absolute, bald-faced lie.

Because you need never prove your value.

You need never perform to have value.

You need never conform to have value.

You need never achieve anything – be it a certain weight, a certain income or a certain level of status or “success” – to have value. 

You might want to do those things and you might even be destined to do them, but that’s not how you “earn” your place on this planet. 

You need never produce superhuman output to have value.

That’s the lie of the oppressor, in the guise of productivity culture. 

You didn’t come here to check a bunch of tasks off some never-ending, ever-growing to do list in the sky.

You came here for joy.

You came here for ever-increasing wholeness, as you start reclaiming all the parts of yourself you had to shut away, repress and disown just to make it through life, when you were young. 

You came here for radical liberation from inner conflict, from a life of struggle, from the repressive lies of culture and of your own inner critic, imposter syndrome, and self-sabotaging, negative thoughts.

You don’t prove or earn your value by achieving, even though that’s what culture wants you to think. 

That might feel real, like it’s how the world works.

The struggle way feels real. I know it does, y’all. But it’s not true, [First Name].

What’s true is that you are valuable, valued, cherished and beloved of All That Is, not because of what you do, but because you exist. 

You can’t earn your worth, because it’s not earnable. And you can’t lose it, because it’s not lose-able.

Your value is absolute. Your worthiness is, too. You deserve a wonderful, blessed life not because you work your heart out, but because you exist. 

Theeee end. Actually, no… I’m not done.

You are not an asset to be tracked, measured and “valued” like a commodity. 

You are a radiant, magnetic soul and spirit. 

You are made of stardust and mystical, scientific miracles.

You are offspring of the limitless love, the infinite intelligence and the creative power that formed all worlds.

You are a droplet of that.

And you weren’t made for constant, chronic struggle. 

So. 

What are you willing to let be easy today? 

And if the idea of “easy” comes hard to you, ask yourself this breakthrough question all throughout the day/week/month/year/decade, anytime your struggle switch flips on: 

“How easy can I let this be?”

And just watch what lights up. 

Let me flag something for you: You can expect your inner critic to talk you out of the opportunities for things to be spacious and easeful that will start lighting up when you start asking yourself “How easy can I let this be?”

Your inner critic will chime in. Your imposter syndrome will flare up. 

I dare you to gracefully do things differently than you ever have before, and let it be easy anyway.

Head up + heart out,

P.S.: I’ll share more about the struggle switch within you soon.

Tara-Nicholle Kirke, MA, Esq.
The Inner Critic Coach™️
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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The Adlerian psychologists have a few wise things to say about so-called “defiant” children.

They say all misbehaving children feel misunderstood. 

And they say all children — behaving or misbehaving — have two buckets they need filled every day: an attention bucket and a power bucket.

Fail to fill either bucket and acting out occurs. 

And this usually becomes an unholy, unruly cycle of defiance, whereby: 

1. Kid doesn’t get attention.
2. Kid acts out.
3. Kid gets attention, even if it’s negative attention.
4. Kid learns that the way to get attention is to act out.

It’s almost ridiculously simple.

Most of the people I work with have identified that they have a problem with self-motivation in that they struggle to stay focused, to be all in and to stay on course when it comes to the things that matter the most to them. They get chronically blocked by conscious fear and self-doubt, and unconscious forms of fear and doubt that usually manifest as distraction. 

Most of the people I work with are also high-achieving, which means they have a pretty incredible track record of actually doing things, just not the things that matter to them. They have a great track record of doing things that get them validation, status, money and approval in the eyes of other people.

Sometimes it’s helpful to think of this kind of self-motivation impasse — this inner resistance —  as kind of like having a defiant inner child that acts out when you ask it to help you do something that matters to you.

When you’re in a season of trying to get into action on your own callings, dreams, self-improvement aspirations and creative projects, and you hit that wall of Inner Resistance, ask yourself these three questions:

1. What within me feels misunderstood right now? Extend an open, warm, listening opportunity to your own emotions and thoughts. 

Write them out freely without censorship and without self-criticism. Delay and suspend your own judgement of your own self. 

Don’t try to reframe anything or talk yourself into feeling something you don’t feel. To do so is to divorce and abandon yourself. Just listen to yourself. If you feel sad, feel sad. If you feel afraid, feel afraid.

Feel your feelings, and let them do their work within you, and they’ll leave you alone before too long. 

2. What within me needs attention right now? I mean this on every level. Do your feet feel cold? Put socks on. Need to pee? Go do that, not in 15 minutes. Now. Are you hungry. Stressed. Anxious? Angry? 

Do you need more sleep? Do you need better nutrition? More physical activity? 

Do you need to stop pushing parts of yourself away? Do you need to stop hiding your own light? Do you need to start grieving or mourning something? 

Do you need to get some help?

3. What within me needs to be empowered right now? You have so much more power than you’re likely exercising. We all do. So make it your practice of regularly empowering your inner child – the playful, innocent, eternally hopeful core of your own inner being — to have some power and call at least some of the shots of your life.

You can do this by devoting more time to playing with dogs and babies. By devoting more time to playing, period. By dressing up when you have nothing but Zoom calls on the calendar. By being lighthearted and playful. By giving someone or giving yourself the (unearned) benefit of the doubt, just because. Or by taking a chance on some endeavor that the hardened, cynical part of you would think is foolish.

You empower your inner child by creating a life that doesn’t make you dread getting up in the morning. You do this by taking things off your plate that you hate to do. By reducing the number of things you hate to do that you have to do on a recurring basis, as part of your everyday life.

If you fill your inner child’s buckets with “credits” for attention, power and understanding today, you can cash those credits in weeks or months in the future. So if you make a habit of filling your inner child’s attention bucket and power bucket a little (or a lot) every day, you will hit less resistance and less defiance when you try to self-motivate. 

Back in the 1900s (lol), they used to call “defiant” children “spirited”. I hate that phrase, because it sets up this idea that the parent is the opponent of the child’s spirit, and the goal should be to surgically extract the spirit from the child. And that’s exactly how so many adults you know had all their brilliant, spirited edges filed off, dulled down and locked up when they were young.

So if you have what feels like a defiant inner child, change the way you think of it. There’s not something within you that’s defiant. You have a  “spirited” inner child. And your goal is not to take the spirit out. You don’t want a spirit-less inner child. You want to unlock that spirit. You want to team up with that spirit. You want to get to know it and let its brilliance infuse everything you ever do. You want to give the reins of your life to that spirit.

And you do that by giving your spirited inner child some understanding, your attention and the power to control a little bit of your everyday life.

Try it and let me know how it goes.

Head up + heart out, 

Tara-Nicholle Kirke, MA, Esq.
The Inner Critic Coach™️
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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Carl Jung is the source of my current favorite spiritual mic-drop.

He said: “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

Meaning: Deep-seated beliefs and parts of your personality that you aren’t even aware of are controlling the events of your life, and you don’t even know it.

Until you make them conscious, you’ll just think that life is hard, that the struggle is real or that the world is an unfriendly place.

We call the most pervasive, most deep-seated, unconscious beliefs that pave the landscape of our lives “trances”, because:

• they are constant and absolute
• they are so unconscious that they run in the background of all our waking — and sleeping — moments, and
• they direct our own actions, emotions, decisions, perspectives and even the events and circumstances we create or attract.

Here are just two of the most common, most devastating trances:

1. The trance of scarcity. This is the trance of “there’s not enough to go around” and “life is hard.”

The trance of scarcity is opposite of the truth that, actually, billions of miracles occur every single day simply to support your personal, individual survival, existence and thriving.

It also opposes the reality that this world is totally riddled and abundant with resources, that there are plenty to go around, and that actually the less we strain and struggle the more easefully the resources we need flow our way.

You can make your own unconscious trance of scarcity conscious by noticing the storylines in your head that chronically go like this:

“I didn’t get enough sleep.”

“I never get enough sleep.”

“There’s no time for that.”

“The struggle is real.”

“Adulting is hard.”

“I’ve got to be perfect or act perfect or work my heart out or over-perform to keep Really Bad Things from happening.”

You can also notice how often you clench your teeth, grind your jaw, hunch your shoulders as though bracing for catastrophe or (and this used to be my personal go-to) hold your breath.

2. The trance of unworthiness. Any belief that you “should be” different than you are is a page from the book of unworthiness. The trance of unworthiness will convince you that it’s not okay to relax all the way, ever. Or that there’s a little bit something wrong with you, so you have to be perfect. Or that people will reject you if you’re anything but totally beyond criticism, 100% of the time.

This often shows up in perfectionism, self-criticism and the resulting symptoms of overeating, over-drinking and over-working.

The trance of unworthiness also shows up as what John Welwood calls the “mood of unlove”: the failure to understand that you are deeply lovable, exactly as you are. This can make it very hard to let love all the way in.

Welwood says people with a mood of unlove “imagine that they are insignificant, unattractive, deficient, lacking in some essential way. And all human greed, jealousy, aggression, and violence arise from there.”

You wake up from the trance of unworthiness by radically accepting yourself, your history and your life and even the way the world is and works.

This does not mean you can’t transform your life — and impact the world — in wonderful ways.

In fact, the most powerful platform for changing your life is to practice being what one of my teachers describes as “satisfied with what is and eager for more.”

Waking up from these trances is possible. Just by making the unconscious conscious, you begin the process of learning to see the world very differently and upgrading your beliefs.

Upgrading these beliefs is a journey of moment after moment of clarity, as you see the inner narratives that have been guiding your life (These stories might even have been controlling your whole family or culture, sometimes for generations.)

Upgrading these beliefs is a process. And it takes time. And you must be gentle and easy with yourself along the way. Because each step of this process feels a little like the end of the world as you know it .

Let me rephrase. Each step of awakening from these trances is, actually, the end of the world as you’ve known it if the world as you’ve known it has been cold, mean or struggle-filled.

This can be disorienting, and can even make you occasionally yearn for the comfort of your old, harsh, limiting, stressful worldview.

But then one day, or maybe a little bit at a time on a thousand different days, it will occur to you that you’ve acquired the ability to intentionally choose how you live your life.

Albert Einstein laid out our options for choosing how to live very clearly.

He said, “there are only two ways to live your life: as though nothing is a miracle, or as though everything is a miracle.”

Head up + heart out,

A Quick Note from Tara: 

It’s August, so I’m in Monk Mode. Working on my book, remodeling my business and … letting some new places woo me. 

I’ll fill you in on that later….

While I’m gone, I’m re-sharing some all time favorites from the Transformation Tuesday archive. Enjoy! 

Tara-Nicholle Kirke, MA, Esq.
The Inner Critic Coach™️
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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I’m not one of those “life is short” people.

Because you are eternal. Your soul is eternal.

And so are all the elements of your body: the carbon, the nitrogen. They’re not making any more of that stuff you know. In our Universe, matter just shifts form. It never dies.

So you can never, really die.

That said, some of us are in these physical bodies for a shorter season, and others for long, leisurely extended ones.

Yet I’m not a big fan of fetishizing death as a cudgel for motivation.

“Hurry up and get it all done!” that story goes. “Check all the boxes off on your bucket list!”

“Achieve, accomplish, life is short”!

Eh. That’s not my jam. Because that’s not why we’re really here.

We’re here for freedom, growth and joy. For connection. For love and wisdom.

Yet, all the same, we are only in these beautiful, intelligent meat-covered skeletons made of stardust for a season.

A precious and powerful season.

We can find love and energy, satisfaction with right now and eagerness for more, when we meditate on the impermanence of life.

We can find freedom from the fear of death during our lives when we follow the words of Ram Dass, who advises us to “keep death on your shoulder and identify with your soul.”

In preparing for one of my talks, I found myself re-reading the old Steve Jobs commencement speech, which had several passages about the brilliance of our mortality.

“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”

He went on:

“No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

Everything else is secondary.

Inner peace lets you hear your own inner voice.

Another reason to release any inner struggles or self-judgment.

Another point in favor of lavish self-love, which reverses inner judgment and creates an atmosphere of inner peace.

Another argument to wholeheartedly engage with the subjects of your fears. To have the courage – the heart – to follow that inner voice.

So today, let’s take an Inner Retreat to become more at peace, more open and more at ease in your own beautiful, resilient and temporary body.

Take three deep, delicious, leisurely, grounding breaths.

Inhaling, filling your lungs all the way up, and exhaling, emptying them out.

Two more breaths just like that in your own time, as you allow your body to begin to ground down and sink in for today’s Inner Retreat.

Slowly scan down your body from the top to the bottom, just noting how it feels as you go.

Don’t try to change anything. Just note.

Today, I want you to do the exercise of focusing on your body’s different muscle groups, one by one, and shut the active energy in them down, one by one.

Start with your feet and your lower legs, shutting them off. Letting them sink in.

Then your upper legs and thighs, and your pelvis. Turn the power off. Shut the tension off.

Sinking in.

Now your belly and your chest, powering any active energy of holding or tightening down.

Next your lower arms, then your neck and your shoulders: power them down. Turn all activity in these muscles off.

Shut it down for these moments.

And finally your jaws, your face, your cheeks, your forehead and the crown of your head, even your eyelids and your gums, power them down. Turn any activity in those muscles off.

In this space, muscles fully relaxed and body sinking all the way in, all the way down, for the rest of your time this morning, focus on the word AT on the inhale, and EASE on your exhales.

Noticing how, even when you are fully unguarded, fully relaxed, fully deactivated, the breath of life still flows through you.

With no effort required from you.

Your lung still breathes.

Your heart still beats.

No effort needed at all.

The entire Universe continues to collaborate in your survival and thriving, even when you let yourself be in the state of ease.

When your mind wanders, come back to these words: AT EASE.

Allow yourself to hear the sounds and smell the smells around you, as you inhale and exhale, opening yourself to more and more ease.

Head up + heart out,

A Quick Note from Tara: 

It’s August, so I’m in Monk Mode. Working on my book, remodeling my business and … letting some new places woo me. 

I’ll fill you in on that later….

While I’m gone, I’m re-sharing some all time favorites from the Transformation Tuesday archive. Enjoy! 

Tara-Nicholle Kirke, MA, Esq.
The Inner Critic Coach™️
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

@taranicholle on FB | TW | IG | LI

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