Dear Brilliant One,
Picasso said that “every act of creation is first, an act of destruction.”
And he wasn’t alone.
Every sacred tradition has a story of sacred destruction as part and parcel of acts of creation.
Parvati — the Hindu goddess of fertility, divine strength and power — is married to Shiva, aka The Destroyer.
In the Kabbalah, the world of chaos and confusion dissolves and gives birth to a new world of Tikkun, which means rectification and correction.
Shoooooooot, Jesus Himself spent some of His time flipping tables and tearing veils to create a new, unmediated relationship between God and humanity.
In the sacred texts of our lives, this principle of Sacred Destruction is critical.
There are three categories of Resistance we must actively destroy in order to create our New Realities, or we risk staying stuck for a lifetime.
1. The first of these categories is LOW EXPECTATIONS: through a lifetime of trauma or so-called learning, we tend to practice, retell and wire in self-fulfilling stories of how certain subjects always play out to our disadvantage.
Then, we repeat our cycles and patterns of trauma.
Not because we don’t ACT differently, but because we don’t THINK differently.
We don’t expect any better, so we don’t get any better.
On some subjects, we don’t even allow ourselves to want more or better than what we already have.
So: low expectations have got to go.
2. The second set of stuff we must actively demolish are our UPPER LIMITS, the name given by Gay Hendricks in his book, The Big Leap, to the patterns of self-sabotage that serve as a ceiling on how good we’re willing to let our lives get.
[In my School, our entire month of June is devoted to studying The Big Leap, learning how to identify your personal Upper Limits and using this self-knowledge to leverage your Zone of Genius… with the benefit of your Sacred Money Archetypes!]
Catch this principle: Your Upper Limits must die for your New Reality to live.
3. The third and last set of things you must actively destroy for your New Reality to live is ENTANGLEMENTS.
Entanglements are what I call the exhausting:
- relationship patterns
- codependent habits of borrowing and “fixing” other grown folks’ chaos and
- extreme tendencies toward over-self-reliance (I’ll do it myself) or
- unworthiness (thoughts like: “I’m not enough”, or “who am I to deserve this??”).
These things have to go because they are exhausting.
They pose the danger of depleting the very energy you need to create your New Reality.
Oh… the other reasons entanglements have to go is that they are escalating: these particular patterns get harder and harder, less and less likely to break, over a lifetime. (Not impossible. But harder.)
If you are on the path of releasing the Resistance to your callings and taking awakened action instead, you are on the path of destroying some or all of these things.
Catch this principle: Destruction is a sacred component of creation.
Hit reply and tell me: What are you ready and willing to destroy now so that your New Reality can come to life?
Head up + heart out,
Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.