I want to tell you a quick story about something that happened while I was in Monk Mode the last six weeks.

The time was intended to be my querencia. This is a concept from bullfighting that I teach all the time. The querencia is a place in the ring of a bullfight. It is a geographic place and a  place in his mind where, even among the madness and the fear and the rage, he can find a temporary refuge. 

If a bull finds this place, he takes a sacred pause, stops reacting to incoming stimulus and taps back into his natural strength and power. And when that happens, a wise bullfighter knows what to do: Get out of the way. Because a bull who finds his querencia becomes unstoppable, and will run through anything in his path.

Farm on the Beach 2020, was my querencia. 

A sacred place to take a sacred pause. To reset and recalibrate. To tap back into my natural strength and power. 

And I treated it as sacred.

I got still.  I took a physical journey, and created a sacred space once I was there. I cleared my calendar. I cleared my headspace. 

I cleared my heartspace. 

I listened. And what I heard was a Divine Download of clear answers, but also (as always) those answers beget some fresh, new questions on the subject of what I will do with the next season of my wild and precious human life*.

In my process of inviting the answers in, I talked with a few of my own guides and advisors, one of whom has a particular gift for seeing energies that can’t be translated by your physical eyes… yet. 

I’m blessed with great discernment and boundaries, so I obeyed my Inner Intelligence and made the call. 

One of the first things he said to me was this, a sentence I will never forget. He said: “Tara, till your dying breath you will never need to worry about money.” And then we went on to discuss what I’d called him to discuss. 

But I want to focus on the first thing he said. See, I hadn’t asked him about money. And I don’t identify as someone who worries a lot about money. Money flows to me with ease and abundance at this stage in my life, though I’m always inviting more, and I give thanks for that flow and tune into that flow every single day. I have for years. 

But baby, when I heard those words through Zoom that day — “Tara, till your dying breath you will never need to worry about money” — let me tell you about the space that opened up inside my chest. The breath-holding that ceased. It wasn’t at all like you’d think. I wasn’t all “woo hooo let’s go to the beach! Passive income, it’s my birthday.” 

Noooo, it was more like this wild final frontier of freedom and possibility opened up, where I could just purely do what I was called to do without worrying about, well, anything. I could trust that everything is always working out, like I’ve been practicing for years, and I could settle into that knowing. 

I remember thinking to myself in the very next moment after he uttered those words: “I don’t care if he is a total crackpot (which he is definitely not), I RECEIVE THIS AS TRUE with no conditions.”

Wheeeeeeeew.

That’s the benefit of a blessing. The benefit of someone you respect and trust speaking an anointing or a blessing over you. It shatters an inner glass ceiling, immediately. It invites you to a leap in your way of being: into a new paradigm beyond your old imprinting, your old conditioned and practiced beliefs.

See, paradigm shifting takes time, and it usually plays out in tiny, incremental shifts. That’s because all transformation takes place outside of your comfort zone, and your old identity and beliefs will fight to stay inside your comfort zone. So every time you seek to, argue with or silence your old beliefs, for example, they will find evidence from marketing messages or culture to argue for your own limitations. 

But there are really two ways to get out of your current, limited paradigm of reality on any subject. You can gradually shift, and this is a good capacity to build and practice, because this is how 90% of deep, lasting change happens. 

But on occasion, you can make a leap — you can actually JUMP into a new paradigm, usually when someone or something helps you see, in a moment, an opportunity or possibility that you just couldn’t see before now. 

In honesty, paradigm jumps are really just moments of clarity that were actually in the making long before they happened. You laid the groundwork and planted the seeds of them in a million different ways, all along your journey. And the moment you get into alignment? A whole new world opens up.

Here’s a silly little example. 

I invite you to jump with me into a new paradigm where: 

• You are absolutely beloved and worthy of all wonderful things. 
• And you never have to earn it: it’s just your inheritance by virtue of existing as a human being on this planet.
• You have everything you need, exactly when you need it
• You can not fail, because Divine Order is using every experience you ever have to line up the ingredients of your highest good
• Every resource in this Universe is available to you, and you access it by consenting to access it (not hard work or perfect performance)

Can you suspend your disbelief? Can you just take my word for it, even for a moment? How does that moment feel? 

If it feels good, or like space opening up in your chest, get curious about whether these things might actually be true, and your Inner Intelligence knows it? 

But this lesson is called ‘Have you ever felt cursed?’. So let me get to that part. 

The day after I talked with the real estate clairvoyant, I went to the apothecary shop in the tiny town near the farm. I spent a few minutes shopping for loose leaf teas and talking with the woman shopkeeper, who looked to be in her sixties. As we talked, for some reason I ended up sharing the story of my advisor telling me I’d never need to worry about money. Never in life.

Her eye’s opened wide, then her expression quickly changed to something like: crestfallen.

She said: “Someone said the exact opposite thing to me.”

I said: “Wait. What?”

She goes: “When I was in my twenties, there was an astrologer just up the street from here. She told me I would never have any money and I would always struggle financially. And that’s been true.”

Then the phone rang, and she answered it and started taking an order, while I sat with what she’d just shared. 

A few minutes later, she hung up and rang up my purchase. I paid, then started to leave the store, but my Inner Guidance got the better of me. 

I turned to her and said: “Sheila?”

She smiled and looked at me, expectantly.

I said, “You don’t know me, but I think I was led here to break that curse off of you today.”

“I know that woman told you you would never have anything. 

But I’m here to tell you that that ends now.

Avalanches of abundance now begin to flow through you, over calm seas, under grace.

You now become a magnet for wonderful things and they will flow to you in wonderful ways.

And you won’t have to work hard for it. 

You’ll be surprised and delighted at the perfect ways your needs will now be met.”

She stood there, so still. She exhaled. 

Then she said: “Thank you so much for saying that to me. That just made my day. I feel so relieved for some reason. Who are you?”

I smiled and said: “I’m just doing my job.”

Her next question cracked me up. “WHAT IS YOUR JOB??!!”

I replied, “I come from a lineage of blessers. My grandmother taught me how to bless people just by laying my eyes on them. My job is to see the very highest and best possibilities for someone’s life and to call it forth,” I said, making the ‘come here’ movement with my index finger, indicating calling her blessings forth.

She said, “Wow.”

On my way out the door, I replied, “Yeah, it’s a pretty cool job. I hope to see you around!”  and waved as I left the shop.

What do I want you to takeaway from this story? 

That your words have power. 

That you can be a blesser. 

That you can shift paradigms. And you can jump them, too.

That you can break curses. You are that powerful. 

But nobody outside of you can curse you, unless you believe they can.

You can activate life, wellbeing and prosperity in others. And in yourself.

You can unlock your own floodgates.

And that you can do it with the power of your belief. 

Avalanches of wonderful things are now flowing to you, too, [First Name]. Over calm seas. Under grace. In surprising, delightful, wonderful ways.

So let it be.

Head up + heart out,

Tara-Nicholle Nelson, MA, Esq.
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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