Listen. 

I dwell in some wild realms these days. 

I’ve been to the other side of the game, as the good Reverend Doctor Erykah Badu said, FNAME. Or the other side of the matrix. Both, actually. 

And of course, as always, I’ll tell you all about it.

But I don’t want to wait until the next book comes out or the next program launches to share some of the rapidly, radically liberating, soul-at-ease-putting, expansively transformational moments of clarity I’ve had. 

So I’m just going to get a little cosmic here for a minute, then I’ll bring some strategy up in here. 

Here’s the basis: 

Everything in this Universe is possible, Brilliant One.

There are literally INFINITE possibilities for how your life might play out, for better or for worse. 

I vote for better. 

It’s not binary, like people think. It’s not like, do you “make it” before you croak… or not?

There are trillions of scenarios and life plotlines along which your highest good could come to pass. 

Only a couple of the “highest good” scenarios are hard effort scenarios. 

The other trillions are “grace” scenarios. Avalanches of abundance scenarios. You-in-the-right-place-at-the-perfect time scenarios. Help-shows-up-in-surprising-and-wonderful-ways scenarios. 

What flips any possibility into a likelihood, into a probability into a tangible reality is focused attention, practiced thought, beliefs and expectations. 

These things all emanate conscious and unconscious patterns of energy you broadcast out into the world and action you take or do not take. 

If you are investing most of your spiritual energy and brainpower retracing traumatized expectations in an effort to avoid bad things happening to you, thinking up all the ways something could go wrong in an effort to achieve or perform your way out of unwanted possibilities, then you are unknowingly strengthening the possibility that the unwanted will recur. 

The legacy of past disappointments, failures and traumas—whether they happened in your lifetime or in your ancestral line—is a nightmare of intrusive, negative storytelling by your own neurobiology, your mind and your spirit—that weaves the limited, unwanted or stressful possibilities into your present and your future over and over again. Your demoralized, disappointed, traumatized expectations become what you recreate over and over again, without even knowing you’re doing it. 

That’s why I say – hey – you can have a high self-esteem and high self-love even, and still have a harsh, hindering Inner Critic.

Because your Inner Critic isn’t just a voice that’s negative about you… it’s negative and critical about the world, about what’s possible in it, about your customers, your employees, your loved ones, the dating prospects.

If you’ve had trauma in your history, or if you have a strong ancestral programming that conditioned you to have a limited view of what’s possible in the world, you may not be able to just talk therapy your way out of this, or even journal or insight your way out of it. 

You have to work to face it and embrace it, mourn it and grieve it, and integrate it into your understanding of the world.

You have to get it out of your body, with yoga or breathing or other somatic medicine. 

And you have to reset your thought habits, first seeing your shadow thoughts and doing the shadow work. 

You can’t just bypass your shadows, y’all. Whatever remains in there remains very, VERY active in your life and is magnetizing in the people and things that keep your self-limiting, self-sabotage patterns in place. 

(And side note: Dr. Jung said that 90% of what’s in your shadow is golden, so that’s the VERY bright side of doing your shadow work, like we do in The Inner Critic Cure. You get into your shadows and you get your unique spirit and vitality back in return.)

And as you do the shadow work, you also have to do the daily rituals and practices involved in telling new stories and thinking new thoughts and creating new momentum. That’s what we do in my Life and Self Mastery program.

So listen. This culture says that anticipating all the bad ways things COULD play out is intelligent. Learning. Science. Some would even call it wisdom or experience. 

But the truth is that the only way you can get to real, deep wisdom is by taking risks and making mistakes and being willing to take another risk and make more mistakes.

That’s why the growth mindset people say MISTAKES ARE HOW YOUR BRAIN GROWS. (Wanna give your children a golden gift? Teach them this saying now.)

Putting your mighty brainpower to work anticipating all the bad ways things could play out doesn’t minimize the likelihood bad things will happen. 

It actually INCREASES the likelihood that you’ll unconsciously recreate the old shit you don’t want to repeat.

But I want you to catch this principle: Your Inner Critic loves to be proven right, even if that means you stay living a smaller, sadder, more limited life than you came here to live. 

So if you have a relational template with your own dreams of “unfulfillment” or “delay” or “unfruition”, and you DON’T actually do your dreams, your Inner Critic will issue you a hit of “see I was right!” juice that feels validating, feels like certainty and feels like relative safety within that certainty. 

Your traumatized brain or your disappointed Inner Child will continue to think low-expectation thoughts as a way to protect you from future disappointment, not really knowing or caring that by virtue of THINKING those thoughts, it makes your highest-good possibilities way, way less possible than they really are.

The solve ain’t simple OR easy, but it is available to you.

And I promise, it’ll only take you like 40 or 50 years to complete it. 😀 

You have to do the shadow work, psychologically.

You have to do the somatic work to train your brain and your breath out of hypervigilance, downregulating your nervous system and recalibrating it over and over again. 

And you have to do the thought rewiring—the declarations and affirmations, the revelry in what is beautiful and abundant and good, taking new risks and making new neurons fire together and wire together, using Spiritual Strategies like limiting the number of times you let yourself tell your traumatized version of a story—you have to learn and practice the rituals and strategies to reclaim your brain, your mind and your soul.

These practices upgrade your understanding of what’s REALLY possible in the world and what’s really possible FOR YOU.

These practices give you a process through which to find new meaning and insight that gives you the courage to stop avoiding and fearing your old traumas and dramas, and instead integrates them into new understanding, new strength, new powers and new wisdom.

These practices upgrade your expectations by helping you build new wiring in your brain, new thought habits in your mind and new awakenings in your spirit. 

They help you build the muscle of plucking from the (cue ethereal 528 hertz music here) quantum field of the infinite things that are possible… the things that are actually in your highest good instead of continuing to reconstellate the different-faces-different-faces-same-old-pattern of limited possibilities..

With practice becoming aware of when you’re telling the traumatized expectation story…

With practice downregulating your vigilant nervous system…

With practice reveling in your wins and looking for the pronoia moments in life… 

With practice upgrading your beliefs and expectations…

Your power as a player of the creation game begins to come more and more fully online.

You’ll start to dwell more in the zone of your Big Dreams than your Big Fears.

You’ll start to flip your highest good possibilities from intangible possibility energy into probability, then into likelihood, then into tangible reality.

And you’ll start to do this more and more frequently, with more and more speed and with less and less effort.

The Big Dream Deferred Energy you might have lived under for as long as you can remember will start to dissolve and dissipate. 

The old stories you used to tell about yourself TO yourself will begin to feel ill-fitting and chafe.

And your Big Self—the True, Sacred Self you came here to be—will emerge.

And when that happens? Don’t mind me… I’ll just be sitting back here feeling VERY validated about all the times I declared over every Being who reads my newsletter that “the Divine Genius within you is now released in wonderful ways.”

All is very well with you. 

I have it on the highest authority, Brilliant One.

So, here’s a question for reflection, journaling and conversation with your revelry buddies: 

Having read this, what NOW feels possible to you?

Hit reply and let me know.

Head up + heart out,

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Tara-Nicholle Kirke, MA, Esq.
The Inner Critic Coach™️
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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