In my mind, my body, my life and my relationships, it is “snap together” season. Divine Order is being established and I am aligning to it in every single area of my life, faster and faster every day.

It feels so damn good. 

And… it requires a lot of me.

A lot of showing up.

A lot of being “on”.

And that is requiring me to be more flexible than normal on some of the firm boundaries I used to have around my time, so that I can go all in on the things that matter the most to me.

So I’ve been doing a lot of my own inner work lately on the subject of time scarcity and time consciousness: the way we experience and relate to TIME. 

One word keeps coming to my mind as I feel for what does and does not work for me, as I experiment with new ways of relating to time:

Zerrissenheit. 

Zerrissenheit is a German word Anne Morrow Lindbergh uses in her beautiful classic Gifts from the Sea, and it means “torn-to-pieces-hood”. 

Zerissenheit is that fragmented feeling of being pulled in many directions and, ultimately, pulled apart. 

But Lindbergh also suggests that there’s a way in which you can live a life in which you extend and radiate energy out in many ways, purposefully, and also at the same time cultivate and maintain a peaceful core, a peaceful center. She uses a wheel as an example: spokes radiating out in every direction from a still, solid, steady core. 

Lindbergh says that occasional, intentional, regular solitude is the antidote to Zerrissenheit.

An interlude of alone time, an Inner Retreat, every day, every week, every month… every quarter… and maybe a longer interlude of alone time once a \year. 

Solitude gives us some time to rediscover ourselves and replenish our inner resources so we can maintain that solid, still, powerful core as we extend our life and energy out in all of the directions our callings and passions require us to.

Solitude allows us to return to center. Return to ground. Recalibrate. Tap back into our natural strength and power. Reconnect to Source. 

Solitude lets us naturally reset back to our own inner clock and pace. 

Solitude invites our own Inner Guidance to speak and gives us the energy and quiet to listen.

Solitude reminds us why we do the things we do in the first place. 

In solitude, we recoup the energy we normally are investing every which way, and in every direction and pour that into ourselves, receive that back from ourselves.

And this solitude is necessary, regularly, even for busy, successful people. Even for entrepreneurs. Even for those who teach and care for others. Even for Moms. 

Especially for Moms. 

But don’t get it twisted: Solitude is not a chore or a “should”. It is nourishment to your soul and spirit and nervous system. 

Catch this principle: Solitude is air and food and water… not luxury. 

Let no one convince you otherwise… not even yourself.

I invite you to find a way to nourish yourself with a little solitude… a little inner retreat… a little “me time” every day, every week, every quarter… and beyond. 

And just as important: I invite you to stop explaining why, justifying yourself or apologizing for the solitude you need to let your true, sacred self come fully online.

Head up + heart out,

Tara-Nicholle Kirke, MA, Esq.
The Inner Critic Coach™️
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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