Friends,

Some of the most valuable stuff I share in these newsletters are my reframes.

For example, when I feel a whiff of Imposter Syndrome, I take it as a sign I’m doing something right.

I’m pushing beyond my comfort zone. I’m expanding. I’m growing. I’m birthing something new. All birth involves contraction. Friction.

And on the other side of that contraction comes creation, always. Expansion. More freedom. More growth. More joy, to the point that I revel in Imposter Syndrome when I feel it now, because I know what wonders are on the other side.

That’s just one example of what I mean when I talk about a “reframe”.

Reframes are to me like spinach was to Popeye: they unlock inner reservoirs of strength and energy to go beyond my past limits, beyond what’s comfortable.

They open my inner pipeline to receive all the ideas, all the right timing, all the right opportunities and all the divine downloads that keep me aligned, on purpose and thriving.

I decided that it’d be fun to share a handful of my top reframes from this year in the next few emails. But when I sat down and started writing them up, it quickly became clear that I had more like 18 reframes to share than 5.

So I’m issuing myself a little Challenge: to share the 18 most powerful reframes I’ve learned in 2018 with you, over the next month or so.

Here’s my #1 Reframe of 2018: The Popeye Principle.

Since I’ve somehow veered into a Popeye theme ¯\_(ツ)_/¯, let’s roll with it.

The lyrics to Popeye’s signature song went like this:

I am what I am and I am what I am that I am
And I got a lotta muscle and I only gots one eye
And I’ll never hurt nobody and I’ll never tell a lie
Top to me bottom and me bottom to me top
That’s the way it is ’til the day that I drop, what am I?
I am what I am.

2018 was a year of deeply practicing Radical Acceptance…of myself, of others and of the way life works.

I know how my body works, I know how my soul and spirit work, and I know how my brain works. And I’m leaning into all of that. Resisting less and less.

Like Popeye, I owned my strengths this year. I noted them. I named them. I harnessed them to great effect.

Like Popeye, I stayed clear on my core values and purpose. I am love. I am a creator. I care about helping people connect with their own Divine Inheritance. That’s my constant goal, always. My intentions are pure and powerful.

And also like Popeye, I know what my less-than-amazing traits and tendencies are, too.

Instead of pushing against or trying to “fix” things about myself, this year, I decided to Radically Accept them. 100%.

My habits of overwork. My tendency to create unnecessary time crunches for myself. My old, unwinding habits of perfectionism.

Instead of pushing against them or overly identifying with them this year, I just owned and accepted them, too.

I lavished my imperfect self with love.

I saw my tendency to live on the clock, got curious about that and gave myself the time and space I needed, over and over again.

I found amusement in my foibles and the old mental stories beneath them, which somehow made them much easier to accept and then, sometimes, release.

I chose to see it as a treasure, instead of a cause for self-criticism, when I discovered new stuff to release.

I allowed myself to set my business, my team, my systems and my life up in ways that work for me.

I noted my issues and named them out loud to the people around me, which empowered everyone involved to self-adjust in wonderful ways.

For instance, I told my boyfriend that I’m kinda like a terrier in that I have a high need for physical activity. If I get it, all is well. If I don’t, I kind of destroy things around me. Like a terrier.

So if I take the time to get an extra workout in on vacation or I need to grab some steps on my treadmill before bed, he gets it. He just says: “time to run the terrier!” And all is well.

I allowed myself to start listening to my inner guidance, always. Even when what it was saying seemed insignificant or weird. I allowed myself to learn that Divine Inner Guidance that feels expansive is always right.

I accepted this, radically, too.

This reframe revealed that I didn’t need fixing or healing, and neither do the people I serve.

We just need to radically accept that life is a process. It is never done and we can’t fail at it.

We just need to radically accept that we are both masterpieces and works in progress. Always.

Life gets fun when we accept that this is what it means to be human.

We aren’t broken. We don’t need fixing. We only need to start shedding the layers of inner roadblocks that have been obscuring our inborn, inner genius.

And it almost never really works to shed those layers through struggle.

We shed them by:

• letting unwanted emotions and patterns rise
• recognizing what they really are
• allowing them to point us to what needs releasing, and
• investigating that with kindness and compassion.

Then, the layers of inner roadblocks and inner criticism start to fall away.

And beneath those layers is who you really are.

Your inner genius, freed. Your light, shining. 100% of your soul, on deck in the world. Your inner critic, on mute.

In the words of Rachel Naomi Remen: “Wholeness is never lost, it is only forgotten.”

Radical Acceptance is reframe #1. It helps you remember your wholeness.

And here’s a guidebook for how to do this reframe in your own life: Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha, by Tara Brach.

Question: Have you experienced a powerful reframe recently? Hit reply or drop it in the comments.

Head up + heart out,

TNN

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