The other day, Londyn crinkled her forehead and squalled the squall of Righteous Toddler Indignation. 

I turned around from doing the dishes and asked her what was wrong.

She replied: “I WANT MY GREY BLANKEEEEEET!!!!!!!” Volubly.

My eyes scanned the room and quickly lasered in on it, lying right under her bum.

I went over and drew her attention to it. 

And I said: “Mi amor, you never have to cry for what you already have.”

When I said that, I made a note to circle back this Transformation Tuesday and tell you something: That you don’t have to cry for what you already have, either. 
 
As quiet as it’s been kept, you already possess every ingredient you’ll ever need to fulfill your sacred callings, dreams and desires, small and large. 

The success formula already flows through you. 

You came here with the gifts, talents and unique spirit and personality to do what your heart is calling you to do.

But you can only see the opportunities and resources to actualize your True Self through the lens on life, on yourself and on the world that you’re wearing right now.

Most of us are wearing the lens of our Inner Critic:

• the voice of fear, scarcity, self-doubt and unworthiness that runs on a loop in our minds
• rooted in early childhood patterns and cultural programming 
• that has been solidified and internalized through no fault of your own, through nothing more than a lifetime of practice. 

Your Inner Critic doesn’t want you to understand the true depths and contours of your own glory, your own magnificence. Because knowing that would free you from the seeming safety of shrinking yourself down, hiding and holding on to old, self-limiting ways.

But I promise you this: On the other end of the Inner Critic stick lies your own, sacred Inner Intelligence. 
And it’s trying to speak to you and through you all the time. 

It’s getting louder all the time. 

In fact, the louder your Inner Critic gets, the more likely it is simply trying to obscure the increasing volume of your Inner Intelligence, which speaks to you in Divine Downloads, inspired ideas, dreams, desires, callings, hunches, nudges, impulses, resonance, the feeling of shackles off and those perfect place/perfect time moments, the moments that feel like you’re psychic, and what my friend Artie calls golden threads of inspiration. 

So. We are going to work together to transform your Inner Critic into the clear signal of Inner Intelligence over the coming months, years and maybe even decades, [First Name].

But today, I just want you to be still.

To stand down.

To stop searching for direction or stability or security OUT THERE.

To refuse to give into the Inner Critic lie that says you need more credentials, a better body or more money before you’ll be ready for your life to take off.

I’ll never forget what our Uncle Rumi said when he said: “You wander from room to room hunting for the diamond necklace that is already around your neck!”

Catch this principle today, [First Name]: The diamond necklace is already around your neck.

You’re not going to find it out there.

It’s already on you.

You already have what you need, including the radiance and magnetism to attract in the other components and collaborators of your dreams. 

Our work together will be to stop dimming that radiance and magnetism. To stop blocking it. 

You already have what you need, including the ingredients of your own coming clarity.

You already have the Inner Intelligence that will help you discern whether you desire to do a course of education for the enrichment of who you are and for the joy of your own learning, growth and development or to assuage the anxiety of putting yourself and your talents out in the world.

You already have the seeds of the desires that will call forth your own growth and greatness so that you might fully participate in your own destiny, even though your Inner Critic might be constantly in your ear asking you who you think you are to even want what you want, so you’re chronically shrinking your dreams down to make them more palatable.

You already have what you need.

But. And. You will have to get out of the way of the creative infinity — the infinite ocean of creative power that is within you. You will need to transform your Inner Critic, unless you want to white-knuckle the rest of your life and end up still living short of your true capacity for creation and for joy. 

You will need to radically accept that all of this life is a process, and that there’s nothing wrong with you because your destiny is taking time to brew and ripen and gestate and bear fruit and take off.

I promise you that the day is coming when you’ll find yourself able to start doing what the author Tara Mohr calls “playing big”: investing more of your time and energy into your dreams than into your fears. 

I promise.

Head up + heart out,

P.S.: I had a super strong reaction to the flurry of “oh shit nooooo” texts I got upon the announcement of the passing of RBG, may her memory be a blessing for generations.

I shared my reaction on the social thingies, occasional profanity and all. (Consider yourself warned.)

Since then, about 700 people have shared that it was just the perspective shift they needed at this time.

Read it here: 

Worried about RBG? [Facebook]

Worried about RBG? [Instagram]

P.P.S.: I got a few dozen incredibly insightful replies to my question last week’s Transformation Tuesday newsletter: What does your Inner Critic say to you?

As I mentioned then, I’m working on a book all about the Inner Critic and how to transform it, and your input is taking this project to a whole new level, so thank you.

This week, feel free to hit reply and let me know this: 

What has your Inner Critic stopped you from doing, in your life? 

I’ll be teaching some free master classes on this body of work for Transformation Tuesday readers in a few weeks, and I’m putting the people who answer these questions on the priority invite list.

Tara-Nicholle Nelson, MA, Esq.
Founder + CEO of SoulTour

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